Should i Join the army national guard?

Question

Hi i am 23 year old female i am married and have 3 children and i would really like to join the army national guard but im scared to go cause i dont want to leave my kids to go to basic so im confused on what to do. please any one give me some advice

Answer 1

It is something to think about , we have 3 children I decided when my husband return from Iraq I wanted to join the Guard, I did , left for BCT and missed my babies but I knew I was there for a reason , noone can tell you what to do... Clearly you must have that support from your family or you will fall apart , what are your children feeling about this? theres alot to think about , if your husband is a civilian that is good because you wont have to worry about who will take care of your children while your away in training and when you get deployed, my husband came down on Orders to deploy 3 weeks left in my BCT and let for Iraq week 3 into my AIT, we have a family care plan but my kids were use to me being home with them when my husband Deployed so for the 1st time in 10 yrs they were without both of us and that was harder on me than I think them.. You need to do what is best for you and your family, talk to your children explain why you want to do this, kids no matter how old are not stupid , whene your gone to BCT write home daily to them explaining what you did that day make them feel apart of what your doing, that is what I did and my husband would go to our web site so my son who at the time was 5 could see the different things were were doing at BCT.
I wish you well, take your time on this do not rush into it, you can always be deployed if not overseas in the statees depending on when your needed, then you could get lucky and end up in a unit that doesnt deploy that only trains and supports other Guard units who are deploying... ask your recruiter what unit your going to, you should be able to pick your MOS and he or she will place you in your unit before you even go to MEPS..
God Bless, if you ever need to talk email me.
I have Actually gone Active duty and my family supports me 100%

Answer 2

It will be over before you know it. I know a bunch of guys that had kids when I went to basic. I guess it make a difference of how old they are. I would say that if they are 5 or older then they will be find. As longs as they will be able to stay with your hubby they will be fine. Plus, once you join you will be sending a check home while you are training. I would join. The hardest part will be that you wont be able to email or call, you will have to send snail mail which gets kind of annoying after awhile. I think you should. I did and it was totally worth it. Good Luck.

P.S.- To all the other guys, yes motherhood is important, but in response I would say that protecting your children and providing them with a future is one of the best parts of being a parent. How better can you do both than by joining the Army. Not only are you protecting you are getting a nice bonus, I smell college money.

I take it back, your kids at any age are fine. It's only 9 weeks. Then AIT when you will be able to communicate regularly. What are you thinking about making your MOS.

Answer 3

Join the Air National Guard. Probably better.

Answer 4

No one can answer that but you. The way I was raised is to believe in God, Family, and Country... in that order.

I personally love the national guard. I think we have outstanding benefits, and I love the mission & opportunity it brings. There are a whole lot of really good reasons for anyone to be in the guard.

At the same time, you have to make peace with what it is. You are really in the military. You will be away for training, there will be times when your obligation conflicts with what you might want to do, and there is the chance you'll deploy at some point. It's perfectly fine to have a family and do all that. I firmly believe it makes you a better person and better parent that your kids can be proud of. But, you do need to understand your duty & be prepared to adapt so that you can serve. That can be a challenge sometimes, but overcoming those challenges will make you stronger than you can imagine.

Ultimately this is your decision and no one can do anything to make it for you. I wish you the best of luck and wisdom in your decision.

Answer 5

Think long and hard about it before you make a decision. You not only have 9 weeks of basic but you will have schooling as well.
You also still might have to deploy etc.
I had to leave my son when I went to Iraq and it was very hard to do. It can be done but you need to weight all your options.

Answer 6

basic shouldn't be your concern. Iraq should be your worry. Your risking leaving your kids behind for 12-15 months. My husband just came back from his 4th tour and almost lost both his legs. Now I'm sitting in Walter Reed Hospital with a whole bunch of young soldiers missing arms, legs and scared up faces because of explosive divices Iraqis are playing around with. Tell me,..is it really worth it. Any force you join at this time of year you'd be risking everything,..even your life because you WILL DEPLOY! Bush doesn't need soldiers state side,..he needs you overseas!

Answer 7

If you want to be with your kids all the time the military isn't for you. If you don't want to leave your kids to go to basic training what would you do if you were to join and then you get deployed to Iraq or another country overseas?

Answer 8

you have 3 kids, so i would go with national guard. if you go to the army your going to basic too, so either way your leaving for that part. but if your a "weekend warrior" you can stills ee your kids unless the state decides to send you to the war.

Answer 9

I recomend you dont join the army. It would disrupt the lives of your kids and another part is no one knows whats gonna happen tomorrow.. YOU MIGHT EVEN DIE in a war or something.. Besides WHY do you want to join the US army, all you are gonna do is fight other people's political war only with weapons... Unless you have a VERY (and I stress VERY again) good cause then you might.. But if I were you, I wouldnt join.. Your CHILDREN NEED YOU!!

Answer 10

All things considered, Basic and AIT are not really that long

You are a good age to mentally and physically succeed.

Upon graduation, your children, and husband will be so proud to see their warrior!