long distance relationships...do they work?!!?

Question

so, how successful are long distance relationships? it scares me...should i be scared? i mean..what if things dont work out? and what if they do? shouldnt we move closer to one another more than being so far apart???

Answer 1

They are successful because of the people who are in them and unseccessful for the same reason. I've been in one for 4 years now, he lives in Germany and i live in US. We look at the distance as a challenge and know that it wont' be forever. If you are scared of it and you are constantly expressing your worry without any just cause to your bf/gf then you will start to fustrate them and this will cause an unneeded strain in the relationship. Take it one day at a time and make sure that you focus on having great communication, trust and honesty. If both people involved can do that then they are off to a good start. This can work out just like any other relationship and they can end in hearbreak just like a relationship where the people see eachother everyday, so really the only difference is distance. Its harder but its worth it if both people care about eachother. Eventually it might be good to think about what you both want from the relationshp, if you two are on the same page. But for now focus on making eachother happy now and getting to know one another better. Email me if you have more questions. Good luck.

Answer 2

I did a long distance relationship for a long time. The problem about that is you never really get to see the true person. Youre always happy to see each other in person because its still new, everytime because of the time apart. Its so easy and without knowing you end up hiding parts of yourself or they just cant see that part. Just as you cant see that part of them. When you finally are able to have a 'normal' relationship where you are living near by things change. It take a lot of maturity. Trust, faith, love...

Answer 3

They can work, but it's hard. I am in a long distance relationship, and have been for awhile...and its very hard to be apart. You have to be VERY trusting, because the opportunity to cheat is much greater with a long distance relationship. Communication is very important, and do not let those little things fester. I did that at the beginning, because we only were about to talk once a day or so, so that one conversation i wanted to be wonderful, not riddled with complaints. But it added up and bothered me more and more until it almost ended our relationship...now we talk about the little things. We see eachother once every 3 months or so, alternating who flys in. My house is for sale right now so i can go join him, but with the housing market, it may be awhile. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

They are really tough. You really have to trust your partner for it to be able to work. Without trust, you'll both become paronoid just because he/she didn't return your phone call that night.
If you become really close, at least a year, then I think it would be acceptable to move. But you can't have any doubts about it, or it'll turn into a mess.
If things don't work out, then it's just like any other relationship. You got to keep strong as best as you can, and eventually move on.
Good luck :)

Answer 5

I'll tell you eventually you'll break. Long distance is to hard and really unless you make plans to be together that are concrete and not just cloud talk you'll end up heart broken. Get together or fall apart.

Answer 6

they can work out --- its ok to be scared it is a big thing ---- one should move closer or in with the other --- depends on what is happening with both of you ---- as long as you stay in touch and keep the relationship alive it will be wonderful ---- best wishes