Were not together but he has a new girlfriend and is unemployed, he refuses to help me out by babysitting so that i dont have to pay a babysitter. He doesnt even answer my calls when it has something to do with our son. But he is wanting to take him to a family reunion this saturday....i feel like he is just wanting to take him for that weekend to make it seem like he is a good father when really he never ever sees him. Should i let him take him?
2007-12-03 14:01:08 · 10 answers · asked by nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you need to re-write the conditions of visitation... to "supervised only" until he either decides to contribute his time or money to the babysitting.
2007-12-03 16:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the computer out of his room and set it up in a major area of the house like the living room and put filters on it so he can't get into pron and the like. If he has a TV in hose room, take that out of there too. He can only watch TV in the living room and only when you say. Certain companies can get channels blocked as well. You can also get a device that will automatically shut the TV when time runs out and he can't turn it back on unless he has the code If he plays violent age inappropriate games, take them away Make sure your mom follows the same rules as you so he can't get away with bad behavior. If he does something that breaks your rules, take away privileges. Like no TV, no games, no computer and the like. As for the cousin, sounds like a horrible influence and that's where a lot of the behavior is coming form. I agree with no longer allowing your child to go over there to sleep. In fact I wouldn't allow him over there at all. The cousin would have to come to my house and obey my rules or leave. Once you set the rules, stand by them. don't let him get away with breaking them and throwing a tantrum over it. Put your foot down.
2016-03-15 05:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his name on the birth certificate? If he is the father and the court has not required a paternity test you better get one. You can not turn this guy into a model father, but you can compell him to work and pay child support or go to jail. Get a good lawyer because if you have to go on government assistance, or you become ill and can't work you are going to be in serious trouble. This is one of the reasons why you are supposed to be legally committed to eachother before the baby gets made.
2007-12-03 14:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that this man is not paying child support. Have you tried to get it?
No, besides the fact that he doesn't want to see him any other time, any situation like yours makes one wonder what else he has up his sleeve.
If he won't give you any money for support, then do not let him take the child to this "do".
I would separate myself from him and go after him for child support. Get legal aid if you cannot afford a lawyer.
You have to start getting tougher regarding this child and this man. He is using you and your son, for his own convenience yet won't look after the son, which means he doesn't really care for him.
If you want to live like this for the rest of your life, then stay as you are, but if you want to improve your life and that of your son, separate yourself from this man, and get him to pay child support.
It is your choice, your life.
2007-12-03 14:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your son old enough to ask how he feels?
If your husband is not spending any other time with his son then I wouldn't be encouraged to let him take him to some reunion to make it appear he is what he is not. Let him deal with his truth.
Your son needs a father not some guy covering his own tush! Tell the jerk to take his girlfriend to the reunion its who he prefers over his son any other time!
2007-12-03 14:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court for more child support because of the high cost of baby sitters. DO NOT tell him your going to do it - just do it!
You can negotiate after he's served.
If he pleads "no job" - so what take him to court and if he doesn't pay/gets a job the judge will find him in contempt and he'll go to jail!
SCREW him
2007-12-03 14:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. he can't be a father when he wants to be, he needs to be all in or not. don't let him take your son to the reunion unless either you go too or he babysits for you.
2007-12-03 14:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an ass. All men are such assholes. Don't take him to the reunion.
2007-12-03 14:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't let him take him unless he promises to babysit him for you!!!
2007-12-03 14:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by i ♥ Sour Patch Kids! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, my experience with being with their da isnt a good thing even with the new g.f . he still brings them home at 11.
2007-12-03 14:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋