I have 2 grandchildren that scream at the top of the lungs if they don't get their way how can I stop this?

Question

My son and his girlfriend have let their children get out of hand by letting them get away with screaming at the top of their lungs if they don't get their way. Is there any thing I can do to stop this?

Right now my grandchildren are living with us along with the parents and it is very stressfull when they scream, I reised 9 children and not a one of the did this at all.

Answer 1

Say something like "I don't listen to kids that scream", and walk away. Ignore them until they calm down and talk to you nicely. Don't ever give them what they were screaming for, even after they stop. Tell them they were misbehaving, and that is their punishment. My daughter is strong willed and is rude and yells and that is what I do with her. I hope that helps.

Answer 2

You probably can't do much about your son's and his girlfriend's parenting choices. You can only influence how the children behave when they are with you. Try this: When they scream about something, ignore them and go about your business with a cheerful, unconcerned demeanor. Hum to yourself (it helps!). As soon as they stop, say something like "well, shall we play a game together now?" (or go to the park, or whatever is likely to divert them from whatever they were screaming about). If you're consistent, they'll quickly figure out that screaming doesn't get them anywhere.

Good luck!

Answer 3

depending on the age I would put them in their room tell them when they are ready to behave like a civilized person then they are welcome to join us then simply shut the door and let them scream. Don't let them scream till they get sick though wait anywhere from 10 to 15 minutes if they don't stop go in comfort them but don't cave in to what they were throwing the tantrum for. Make the parents do the same or there will be other issues that you will not want to deal with.

Answer 4

bless your heart grandma . Are you baby sitting or are they just visiting you? if you are babysitting for your son then you may want to have a stern talk with him.Let him know that the situation makes watching them very stressful. I bet you didn't raise him that way. Tell him that you love him and your grand children but they need to learn that they aren't always going to get what they want. They will learn that sooner or later so its better sooner and at home. Makes it less of a dissapointment later on. None of us get our way all the time.
Spare the rod and spoil the child ,that's in the bible for a reason. im not saying that you or your son has to spank them but if he loves them he will set limits. and saying no sometimes,does not mean he loves them any less.

Answer 5

Tell your son and his girlfriend to discipline their children. Say it in a nice way of course, but tell them EXACTLY how you feel. If they fail to take action, then take action yourself. Start putting the kids in time-outs. If you believe in spanking then maybe it's time for that. I just can't see two kids screaming to the top of their lungs (in my home), and I have to deal with it. That would drive me nuts, especially since you say they are living with you right now.

If they object to you disciplining the kids YOUR way then tell them to go find them an apartment or somewhere else to live.

Answer 6

When they start screaming pack them up in the car and tell they you are taking them home and explain to them why, what you will accept and expect from them in their behavior.

My mom did this for my nieces and nephew. I now respect my mom, but still dog their parents.

Answer 7

I make my daughter sit on the couch and do nothing until she stops. She usually with in 15 min of crying, looks at me and says all done.

Answer 8

You have to be firm and stand your ground with them . Sure it will suck for the first bit but it will work. Don't let them have their way until they know YOUR rules and respect them