I love her but i definitely don't like her, and was so angry after the family dinner. She had trauma issues from her past, her parents left her at 5 but reunited in late teens, politcal unstability at certain point in her life etc...when left on my own i can feel good about myself, but never when she is around. she wants me to live out her dreams for her even now it's obvious it won't happen. she use to criticize non stop but better now. she wanted me to be a boy. she doesn't like my personality. she thinks i'm good looking but not the type she likes. she never asks me how i feel about anything, and just comes straight out tell me what she wants me to do with my life. she compares people endlessly. she's bitter she doesn't get family in youth, and jealous of her rich successful brother. she takes it out on me. wants me to be what i'm not and she drives me nuts, i'm insane because of her.. and my dad says nothing. and my siblings is just like her now.
2007-12-03 12:50:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you my in-laws? Ok my mother-in law is actually very nice but still funny!
People who have had a rough upbringing have a very hard time becoming good responsible citizens. You need to look out for you and not focus on her so much.
Frequently those who spend their lives trying not to repeat the mistakes of their parents end up doing exactly what they don't want to do! Don't be in a rush to not be something!
If she is too unstable at some point you need to cut your loses and move forward solo.
2007-12-03 12:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by JimBob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as the perfect mother or the worst mother for this matter. Some are just unfit for being mother material. You should be thankful your mother is in your life. My mom was never around and never did anything for me except giving me life which I am thankful for. If it really bothers you, you should sit down with her and talk to her about how she makes you feel. Good luck!
2007-12-03 20:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound as a bad mother, a bad mother will be one that never feed you, that physically or mantally abused you or that hurt you in any way with that intention.
Honestly, it just sound like she could need some professional help to leave all her childhood problems behind,and that you need to move on and say thanks mom but this is the time for me to grow far from you, for our own good.
2007-12-03 21:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by California 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you are really trying to say as you are all over the place. But if your mother is trying to live through you then she can't do that. Just love her and be respectful of her but if you are old enough then live your life the way you want to. Don't try to do things to please others as it never works. But be mindful of her and don't put up with her nonsense. Good luck.
2007-12-03 20:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kym M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is your first set of obstacles to overcome.
Just move on and live your own life.
Your mom has passed on a really wretched legacy to create another generation of bitter complainers.
2007-12-04 01:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋