Deployment/relationship related...?

Question

My boyfriend and I met on deployment to Iraq a few years ago and fell in love. He went home a few months before I did, but we promised to live together when I got back. So I moved to a new state and went to a new school to be with him. I even transfered to the National Guard in his state from the Reserves(which is not an easy process for those of you who don't know). We lived together for about 2 and a half years. Our relationship wasn't always easy, but we always loved each other and we were each others best friends. He found out a few months ago that he would be deployed again...his mission this time may be more dangerous than it was for him last time. He is an MP and right now he is training to be a turret gunner for convoys...when I met him in Iraq he was basically working a desk job as intelligence...but I think somethings he saw the first time he was over there freaked him out. He had to go through a dead soldier's personal items(he didn't know the soldier)

but apparently the dead soldier was newly married with a young child and it freaked him out and when he was in Baghdad getting read to go on R&R a rocket came close to his tent. He is still in training...he hasn't even gone to Iraq yet. He has only a local state wide cell phone coverage and he is in another state, but he could still borrow another person's phone to call me. I haven't heard from him in over 3 weeks...and the last time I heard from him I had to call him. Not one month ago he said he would always love me and that there may still be hope for our relationship when he gets back home.

our stuff from the apartment most of which I paid for is in a storage unit in the state we lived in. His parents helped me move our furniture into the storage unit...and they said that my bf would pay for the cost of the storage unit. I now am back home living with my mom. He decided to break up with me before he left because he didn't feel it was right for me to worry about him while he was over there and that I shouldn't put my life on hold for him but I love him so much! Do you think he will ever contact me again?

Answer 1

Huh?

Stick out your hand.

SMACK

Sorry, thats just ignorant, OF COURSE he'll contact you again, how much time have you spent in the military? Sorry that wasn't compassinate, I'm a miltary brat myself, born and raised not more then 5 miles from a miltary base most of my life. What you need to remember is how, when on deployment its sort of a easy to loss contact with people your feeling guilty about, your living this whole other life seperate of your life as a civilian. Besides that you painted a picture of a man scared of hurting you, YES how he did it was selfish. His death, his mortality is your cross to bare to, so he did sort of fail you their. But its up to you weather he failed you enough or if you understand his behavior, I think you do. I think you need to just be strong thru this and understand if he has the ability he well call you when he can, if he doesn't, trust what you've done with that mans heart is unearsable, unforgettable. Let him do his fool hearted mission, you can slap him around and hopfully hug him when he gets back, look to the support of other miltary wives, because frankly they ARE the only ones that well understand....