I am having a really tough time right now. I'm a new mom (as of 3 weeks ago), I am broke and obviously cannot work as I am breastfeeding and my baby is much to young for me to go back to work, my husband is on disability and is crippled for life from an accident we were in....we're living in a suite in my parents basement because we have no money, We are not celebrating christmas this year because of how little money we have (but of course my husband has money for smokes) and I know a lot of people will say "christmas isnt about the money" and I know that, I just like the act of giving, not being a broke *** taking presents from people and not having anything to give in return. I get mad whenever anyone goes out and does anything, as I cannot because of no money, husband being disabled (I like to hike and go for long walks, we used to do that all the time together before the accident, now my husband cannot even walk downt he street..)
2007-12-03
11:48:41
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krisindeed
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➔ Mental Health
I dont know what to do to improve my quality of life, for me, my baby and my husband...but all I want is for us to be happy again. It seems the stresses of everyday life just seem to make us fight all the time...
And...I really wish my husband would quit smoking...but whenver I talk about it, or even just hint at it he flips out on me....
I quit when I had my baby...and with all the feelings going on in my head...I just want a smoke...
I dont know how to fix this....but I really feel it needs to be fixed..
I also Dont want to be on anti depressants, as I have been before, but all it did was made me emotionless, and I dont want that....
I just want things back to the way they used to be....
2007-12-03
11:51:02 ·
update #1
Also, whenever I talk to anyone about my problems...whether it be my husband, parents or mom in law...they all brush it off like its nothing and say its post partum depression...but its NOT. Its been happening since before I even got pregnant. Since my husband went from working, making lots of money and being this mega tough guy in my eyes....to being on disability, nooo money whatsoever, and hardly able to walk......he doesnt seem tough anymore to me...but I love him so much...it just feels like he's a totally different person...and it hurts me....but he just gets mad and give me a guilt trip when I bring this up with him...I dont know what to do...and I have NO money for counselling or anything so I'm pretty much just stuck in this rut until the day I die or something, I dont know...
2007-12-03
11:58:20 ·
update #2