If you have been in a relationship and it failed, but you really care about each other. Even if it was messy. How can both people really be certain that that person is even a possibility?
I know it is a complex question, but most folks seem sure one moment and then change their minds that next and are sure then.
In the end it should really be about whether the two would come together and be happier together than they would be apart, and that they both really want to be there.
Would it be safe to say that you should marry someone who is your best friend?
I ask because it seems people are so sure one way or the other, as if it were forever, but for some reason it seems more like it is easier to treat it that way.
2007-12-03 11:39:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, this can be complicated. First you should be with someone who is healthy; by this I mean not abusive, able to communicate, and compassionate. You should both be good friends and have some similar values. You should consider lifestyle and make sure that the both of you want a similar life. (It rarely works if one partner wants to live in the city and the other wants to be a farmer; rich/average income, famous/anonymous, etc.) Once you have some basic things down you should consider how many children you want, meet the family, etc. If you still get along after all of that you have the last and hardest part; make sure that both of you are realistic about relationships.
It is my opinion that many of the young people I meet today think that their partner must be perfect and fit them perfectly. When this doesn't happen they move from one relationship to the next. You and your partner must be ready to not get along, to even argue about things; but if both of you really love each other and are able to talk it out and reach an agreement you can last for as long as you live.
Today people treat relationships like consumer goods, those pants didn't fit, so I'm going to try on a new pair. The truth is, no one is a "perfect" fit.
Good luck, I hope you find love, and get to keep it.
2007-12-03 11:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by mai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you can't really be sure. It's a constant journey with changing conditions and with someone who's changing while you're changing. You have to want to stay together enough to keep working on the problems that come up. Everybody has particular reasons for getting married and (hopefully) for staying married, but those reasons may not last or may change in importance over time. It's kind of a gamble because you just don't know how things will be down the road.
2007-12-03 19:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way it's nice to have your best friend as your married partner as you two would be very close and would know each other better than those who are not, however one thing that always seem to stand btw best friends relationship is the fear of losing their friendship if it doesn't work out
but who's meant to be will eventually be :]
2007-12-03 19:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your thinking about marriage you have to know that your life would not be complete without that other person. Even if you make millions and get laid by thousands of ladies you still would think about that person and feel incomplete.
2007-12-03 19:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I am a girl, I would hint at the fact that I want to be married.
2007-12-03 19:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a question that is more of a help-yourself kind of question. do you have alot in common??? do you fight alot??? do YOU think she is marriage-worthy??? the answer is up to you. decide for yourself.
2007-12-03 19:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by smartestgirlintheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋