Can you cheer me up?

Question

I have had the most awful day. Firstly I was told that my ex Mother in law is about to die in hospital (never did like her but she is my kids Grandma and they are upset) then my friend gave birth to a lovely little boy while I was away and I was supposed to be her birth partner but I missed it and I was SO looking forward to it. Then my daughter-in-laws Mum who is lovely had to have a radical mastectomy today. To top it all I had a big "difference of opinion" with a manager at work in the hospital. I think I will go into hibernation.

Mr Ed you have just made it worse. I am not over 65 thank you very much. But I will go and have a nice G&T.

Partner is away, so sat here on my own feeling sorry for myself. Not for long though I hope . That is not how I am.

Collard Greens, If I take some prune juice, I don't think my night will be peaceful, but thanks anyway.

what happened to Collard Greens answer?

celestehackett I know that you mean well, but I am not looking for therapy. I have been a therapist myself for 27 years and know how to deal with my feelings very well. I just wanted some sympathy and funny jokes.But thank you again for taking the trouble to care enough to reply.

Answer 1

Shan, sorry to hear you are feeling blue, after a visit to Holland you should be feeling on top of the world. Did you not bring a bottle of Advocaat back with you, now is the time to have a sip.Grods is thinking of you so cheer up and plan your next shopping trip,remember, when the going gets tough the tough go shopping.Best of luck.PS Hospital managers know nothing, you and your fellow nurses are the front line that we cannot do without.

Answer 2

Hello little sweety-pie.
You are as cute as a button. I love you and don't know you. But I feel you are a darling. Now doesn't that just cheer you up that someone loves you? I do. I certainly do.

Here now, close your eyes and pretend someone is tickling you like when you were a kid and you felt so very loveable. You still are. Now you are getting a big hug. Hug yourself and giggle.

If all that fails, pay attention to your body. Emotions can be felt in the body. That is why we call them feelings. Now get a strong pillow and punch it really hard and say I am moving this feeling OUT of my body and if you want you can scream too to get it out.

Just keep doing that and resting and you will find that it begins to fade.

Also, give the feeling a voice. If it could speak, what would it say? Let it talk. It might say, "I hate you!!!!" or 'I am so scared!" let it talk and keep it up while hitting the pillow.

If tears come up let them all out! Don't suck them back in. Tears are good! All feelings are good.

You may also imagine someone is there to talk to or yell at like God or your kids grandma who died. " you were such a mean old ***** and now you have made my kids sad to boot!" Just get it all out!

You may find you have many layers of feelings. It may start as anger or fear then end up being sadness or guilt. Let it all out! Human emotion doesn't last very long when it is fully expressed. The problem is that you have not resolved feelings so many times that they are in the subconsious so when something happens that upsets you, then all that stuff inside resonates with the new feeling and it is too much to take! So....you have to let it all that out and if you are like most people you have been stuffing your feelings since childhood so there is a lot in there.

Just honor your feelings and give them a voice and hit the dang pillow and keep hitting.

Keep doing this pillow pounding exercise even if it is sadness or something you are not sure about... any feeling in the body while doing this is reason to do another round of hitting. Say I am FEELING MY FEELINGS AND GETTING THIS OUT...and eventually you will find clarity.

You may need to have this session every night for awhile until you really get free of all the enternal stuffed emotions.

When you are free you will feel so much better! You'll have a sense of relief and things won't bother you so much anymore.

Drinking that Gin and tonic is really just a distraction. The feelings need to be dealt with because after the G&T they'll still be there and will arise again. And if you continue having these feelings and not resolve them that can lead to frustration and if you stay frustrated too long you can get depressed.

As an alternative, find a 5-PATH hypnotist to help you.

Good luck!

Answer 3

1. go out to the garage (driveway if you don't own a garage)
2. get into the trunk of the car (or what ever area holds tire changing equipment)
3. remove tire iron (or get a huge screwdriver)
4. return to house with the tool, and take a nice hot shower
or bath
5. dry down and use a nice oily body rub (vaseline can be sustituted)
6. use tire iron or screw driver as a pry bar in rectal area
and with the first effort ,that cross-wise fart should break loose and you'll feel like a million bucks.

(If not the effort will have taken your mind off the problems for a minute or two, and allowed time for some other "home remedies")

Hey man, we're all pullin for ya -- keep the chin up and keep on truckin.

Answer 4

I can just tell you to hold on and that things will seem better later. Your ex mother in law in hospital that is sad no matter what. Hope your kids love her even though you didn't like her much. That baby you didn't get to see being born, I am sure you will get so to see real soon. Your daughters mother in law had a radical Mastectomy, you can go and Cheer her up. I guess everyone that you mentioned seems to be having a worse day then you. I guess you can see it like that and be thankful it is not you in one of there place. Giving birth is painful too. So cheer up and see the bright side.

Answer 5

You can't change the past...so move towards the future. For some quick comfort try 1 or a few of the following

Have a cup of hot cocoa==top it with whipped cream (you can inhale some right from the bottle as well)

Take a warm bubble bath

Put a favorite CD on and sing at the top of your lungs. If it's in the middle of the night, you mind wind up having the police show up.

Turn on cartoons.

Run around the house naked (close the blinds)

Tomorrow is another day....Be with those that you can't and don't dwell on the things that you cannot control

Answer 6

Have you heard about the penguin in a rental car driving through the desert? He's driving along the interstate and the car begins to lose power so he stops at the next exit and finds a service station. He explains to the mechanic the loss of power and asks if he could take a look under the hood. The penguin isn't used to the heat and asks the mechanic if there's someplace he could get something to cool off. The mechanic points him towards a nearby ice cream shop and the penguin waddles off. He enters the shop and orders the biggest bowl of vanilla ice cream available. Not being able to wield a spoon he uses his flippers to eat and makes a bit of a mess. When he's done he waddles back over to the station with ice cream still dripping all over and asks the mechanic if he's found the problem and the mechanic says:

Looks to me like you blew a seal.

Answer 7

Always look on the bright side of life de dum de dum de dum de dum.

ex Mum in law will no longer suffer any pain and she may be able to enjoy one last Christmas. You could make her remaining days more enjoyable.

Your birth partner gave birth to a healthy little boy whom you can share some fun hours with throughout the years.

Daughter in laws Mum has a good chance of survival with aftercare treatment.

Tomorrow is another day that you may enjoy tremendously.

Answer 8

I've been traveling a lot in the last few years.
When I get back I tell no one I am back .
I do go into hibernation for three days.
When you were gone some of the Seniors on here had some funny jokes.
Look for them it will cheer you up!

Happy Holidays

Answer 9

I'm sorry about your mother in law, because when your kids hurt so do you. Be there for your daughter in law, because she is going through a rough time right now, because she could lose her mother. The boss will get over it and you my dear friend didn't fall and break your leg. See something positive happened today, and you weren't even aware of it. I hope everyone is okay and my prayers will go out to your family, even if I don't know you.

Answer 10

Hug your kids, tell them Grandma loves them but it is time for her to say goodbye, call your friend and tell her you love her and go hug her and her baby, Go see Mum and hug her too, it sounds like you all need all the hugs you can get. When you get home, put on the cuddliest, softest thing you can find, have a cup of hot chocolate with lots of marshmellow, and let your husband give you hugs. Tomorrow will be a new day, and things will look brighter. Blessed be.