Sexy and Single...??

Question

Im a an attractive female. When I got out, heads turn..Im not trying to sound conceited, im just better detailing for the purpose of my question. The problem is is that i cant find someone like me. Im educated, smart, good job, etc. It seems like all the gangsta hoodrat men love me. Its hard to find someone on my level. I am very selective now due to failed relationships in the past. I dont want to be single, but I refuse to settle for anyone. Does anyone else have this problem?

This is an innocent question..I dont dress sexy, I work for the Government. I have standards like everyone else...

Answer 1

I don't, but I bet your not the only one. ;)

Answer 2

Perhaps you go to the wrong places and/or the way you dress attracts the wrong type of men. There are a lot of men out there with the qualities you are looking for. There is no need to settle, ever. I've been single for a while, dated a lot, but didn't find the right person. Recently, I just started seeing someone who has everything I've been looking for and more. We are very happy together. So, don't give up, keep looking.

Answer 3

You should probably seriously evaluate how you dress and present yourself. Like tends to attract like on the surface, and maybe you're dressing just a tad too sexy or wearing a little too much makeup. Maybe you go to the wrong places and hang out with the wrong people.

If you want a guy that has a good career and is intelligent then you need to dress nicely but a bit more conservatively, wear makeup that looks like you aren't actually wearing any, and keep your hair in a sleek, professional style. Don't hang out at trashy clubs where the lowlifes go - head to yuppie lounges where they have after-work happy hour near office buildings.

Answer 4

Yes I do. But I've finally found somebody that I'm able to love and love me for who I am and not just for my looks. I was hesitant to give him my number because at the time I wasn't really wanting to have a bf. It's the same way here. All of the old hippys and the thugs want to talk to me also. But there are some "hood" boys with book smart and thats what my Hubby has. Heads still turn my way when I'm with him and he hates it. But now I have somebody that can defend me when a bum tries to get my number. LOL.

I am VERY selective. Have a good head on your shoulders, dress nice, look nice, actually has goals, respectful, you don't have to spoil me but surprise me with a gift from time to time. It's like that for you too isn't it? You'll find it. But once you find it, and you start getting more interested in that guy, all of that in those standards won't matter anymore. And he likes me when I have on some juicy couture sweat pants and what not and my hair not flat-ironed and a hoody. And he still loves me, and I love him if he had on jogging pants and a hoody. Just to show me and hopefully other girls that looks don't matter and I learned from experience. (But as long as you don't look dirty/bummy...LOL)

And what's so special about it was when I WAS "looking" for a new guy friend to hang out with, I wasn't interested in anybody. But he came into my life out of nowhere. So what I'm trying to tell you is there IS a guy out there. I know I know, people used to tell me that all the time and all I said was "That's BS". Don't go looking for love. That's why it's called FALLING in love. You don't expect to, you just........do. He swept me off of my feet and it'll happen to you too. Just be patient.

Answer 5

I think that what you need is a change in scenery. I dont think you should change your looks to find a guy but your aproach tells alot if you will fish a player or a gentleman. Good luck with your search. You sound like an inteligent woman just hang in there mr right will come along soon.

Answer 6

I know exactly what you mean and it is very frustrating. Is it so much to ask for a man who can carry on an intelligent conversation, is interested in more than drinking with his pals and watching football, and is attractive to me? The last "first date" I went on, the guy told me he hadn't read a book since he was in 8th grade! WTF?!

I think I'm gonna be single forever.

Answer 7

it probably is because guys think you are out of their league. show them you arent by flirting and paying attention to them. just show them you arent stuck up and you will be fine (if what you say is true) also dont dress like a "hoochie" that would be a reason for only hoodrats to love you... i kinda have the same problem, i dont know why alot of ghetto girls love me (im not like that at all)...

Answer 8

i think a lot of people have this problem and i dont know if there is an answer for everyone --- change your habits may be part of the answer got to different places to meet different people ---- while i cant say i met ladies "below my level" we just never clicked --- all i can say is sometimes when you least expect it you will meet someone so different that the image you had in mind and they just may be the love of your life ---- best wishes

Answer 9

If all the gangsta hoodrat men love you, maybe you should accept it? Don't you wan't a little baby "Cash Money Steve" running around?

Answer 10

first of all, on condition that that's the hockey area, no longer the singles and relationship area, we don't tend to maintain music of NHL gamers' relationship prestige, consequently making it impossible relatively answer your question. Plus, it incredibly is an argument of non-public opinion. as an occasion, my sister loves Crosby, on an identical time as i think of that any male with greater beneficial lips than Angelina Jolie is incredibly repulsive.

Answer 11

you dont want to sound conceited, then why is it necessary for you to say "i turn heads when i walk out" uhhu. thats nice. go to some country club or golf course sinse the gangstaa hoodrats arn't good enough to even be given a chance...