2 of my good friends from high school are getting married, six years after high school graduation. We were very good friends (in a tight group of about 8 people) during high school. We all hung out frequently during college breaks but I haven't kept in touch much in the past 2 years.
Now they are getting married and pretty much all of our friends other than me got invited - granted, they've kept in better touch with most of the other friends. They do have my contact info because we're friends on facebook. I even posted congratulatory notes on their walls as soon as they got engaged nine months ago.
But no wedding invitation. Is this a snub? I haven't done anything to make them mad at me, as far as I know. Or should I just accept that there's a limited number of invites to a wedding and they just don't value my friendship at much as the other friends?
2007-12-03 11:04:54 · 16 answers · asked by tidy mess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're right in your assumption that there may be a limited guest list, often to save money on food at the reception. However, I couldn't imagine inviting my 5 closest friends out of a group of 8 ( I take it the two getting married are included in the 8), and leaving one out! Especially if you are still close to the others. In that case, I would be offended.
Look at it this way...now you don't have to send a gift!
2007-12-03 11:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
on an identical time as commonly siblings are asked to take part in a marriage, that's no longer an computerized given. She isn't doing something incorrect right here and you may desire to no longer interpret this as a reasonable. Getting an invite fairly than a verbal invite makes it sparkling she needs you to come lower back. If she had no longer sent you an invite and did no longer comprise you in the bridal occasion then you truly ought to assume she became into purposely different than you. Sending you the invitation, even even with the indisputable fact which you're her sister and she or he could have only predicted you to come lower back considering the fact which you recognize the place and whilst became right into a considerate gesture. BTW, the maid of honor and bridesmaids have responsibilities and expenses. Thank her for no longer giving you yet yet another chore.
2016-10-10 04:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept that there are a limited number of invites. Have a good attitude about these friends so your relationship will continue for the rest of your lives. You'll be closer at some times than at others, and at this particular time, you've got some distance. They are inviting their closest friends & family as of right now to the wedding, not shutting the door on your friendship.
2007-12-03 13:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept there's a limited number of invites. I wouldn't expect an invitation to a wedding if I haven't talked to the person in 2 years (even if we are friends on Facebook. I have more than 50 friends on Facebook, they aren't all getting invited).
2007-12-03 11:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
These days weddings are soooo expensive and number of ppl invited is generally less because of the catering cost.
I wouldn't get too uptight about not being invited - having said that it would hurt if the others in the group got an invite and not you!
Unfortunately you just have to accept the situation as it stands. I'd still send a congrats card to the couple (but I'd do it to spite !! sorry, that's me!) and let them contact you next...
2007-12-03 11:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, I tried to be careful with the guest list because by asking someone to come to the wedding, I am asking them to give up an entire Saturday, get dressed up, bring a gift, and potentially pay for a babysitter. There were friends I could have invited, but didn't, because I felt it was too much of an obligation for our level of friendship. I hope they didn't feel slighted, but I actually felt like I was doing them a favor. Could be that your friends feel the same way!
2007-12-03 14:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are expensive. There are only a set amount of people they will be able to financially invite. Chances are you were on the original guest list that they made, but since you are now not as close as other people to them unfortunately it seems you were one of the people who had to be cut. Remember that both have to invite family as well as friends, im sure they didnt mean to insult you but when you are paying an odd $100 per person you want to make sure the people around you are going to be around your whole life. If somebody has fallen away in the last couple of years, chances are as time goes by they will grow further apart.
Be a good friend, go to the ceremony and be happy for the couple.
2007-12-03 12:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by katie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would accept that there's a limited number of invites and they had to draw the line somewhere. If you haven't kept in touch for the past 2 years, that's probably why. Perhaps they feel your friends value their friendship more than you do.
2007-12-03 11:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should continue to be happy for them. While you are entitled to feel a bit nostalgic that the rest of the gang will be at the wedding, take this as a lesson to work a bit harder in the future if you want to be part of your former high school friends. Many of my high school chums have continued to socialize with each other over the years. While I enjoy their company at reunions, the truth is we don't have much in common except our past and I would never expect to be invited to their personal occasions.
2007-12-03 11:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't immediately go on the defensive with this one. Maybe she had a budget and number of guests to stick to and since you haven't really talked in about two years she may have had to cut your name off the list. I say be mature about it and send them a card. I think it would be tacky if you called her up and asked about the non-invite.
2007-12-03 16:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋