Should I give a friend a chance to date me even though I like my other friend a lot more?

Question

Okay I have a guy friend that I really like but it seems like the relationship isn't going to happen from my perspective. He tends to flirt with me at times but never hints at wanting more although it does seem like it at times like when he touches my knee and invites me to go places with him. I really like him but I don't want to ruin the friendship by making things awkward if I confront him about it so I haven't made a move either. On the other hand I have another guy friend that does like me and wants to date me. He seems more like a friend to me though but I've been considering giving it a try with him. But then I think how I can't get the other guy out of my mind and I wonder if it would really work out. I want to give the guy friend that likes me a try but I just don't know if I should because there is always the chance my other guy friend like me even though I've thought it not possible. Both are really good friends but I really don't know wat to do so please help!

Answer 1

I would recommend that you not go out with the guy in your "friend zone". From what I've observed and from what I've experienced, I think that--if you did decide to go out with the guy who you know likes you--you'd end up still dreaming about your crush while feeling guilty and stuck in a relationship that you don't *really* want to be in.

Most people don't care *that* much over whether they get Coke or Pepsi. As long as they have other friends, folks don't usually kick and cry forever if they never do get into a cetain clique. But people are funny when it comes to love. In love, people want to be "Happy"--not "happy". People aren't satisfied unless they're over the moon for someone. Strange as it is, romantic love is an all-or-nothing thing. I recommend that you "go for broke"--don't gamble on anyone you don't already believe will make you Happy. If you're #1 crush turns out not to return your feelings, then so what? Stay single and keep your options open until you meet the next guy that really steals your heart. After all, you can really only have 1 man in your life. Make him count.