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I'm a junior in high-school and there's this girl that sits by me in a couple of my classes. We talk to each other a lot, but I can't exactly read whether she likes me or not. She's really popular and a lot of guys like her, but she hasn't had a boyfriend in quite a while. We always find something to talk about in class, even about other classes which we have the same teachers for. I really like her, and I want to ask her out, but I'm afraid of risking it. We're good friends and if she doesn't like me, asking her out would surely lead in one direction. So, what do you think? Should I risk it? or Wait and see?

I did invite her to a study group a month ago, but it got canceled. She agreed to it though, saying she'd love to (I'm not sure if she'd love to b/c of me, or because she wasn't rdy for the test)

Answer 1

How does she treat you outside of classes, does she say hi to you and smile or just ignore you if she sees you in the hallway etc.?

Just try and talk more to her, and maybe talk to her friends too..maybe hang out outside of school too...

wait and see, but also make strides to improve your relationship with her

Answer 2

My advice? Go for it. If you want you can wait it out a little bit, but I wouldn't wait to long or you risk finding yourself stuck too deeply in "The Friend Zone." Yes, it is entirely possible that she will reject you, and yes, it could put a strain on your friendship, for a while, but eventually you friendship will heal and you won't have to go through life wondering what would have happened if you had just asked. I realize this is a lot easier said than done but if you don't take the risk you may just regret it your entire life, whereas if you do ask her and she turns you down you'll regret it for a couple of months at the most and then you'll get over it and you and she will have something to laugh about. Good luck and I hope she says yes. :]

Answer 3

Hey mate, I really think you have set yourself in a very bad position with her. You have set yourself as the 'good guy' friend, and not so much of the alpha male type that good looking girls tend to follow. But, good news for you, there's a way out of this hole. It's called 'hanging out.' Start by you two studying together, grabbing a slurpee or whatever. Maybe chill and talk after the studying. What you do during that 'chill' time after studying is when you become more directive. Eventually, she will really like you and all will be well !

Answer 4

I'm a junior/senior in high school too. except a female. i think that if you guys are really good friends i wouldnt risk it. if you cant read it she is either playin with you or totally not interested at all. i think if you wait and see you will be able to tell. Just maybe find a friend that is going on a date with another person and say that your friend doesnt want to go alone so you are going and you dont wanna be a third wheel so invite her. that way you will def. be able to tell if she is into you and then you get the date. (remember to actually find a friend to go out with a girl with you guys)

good luck!

Answer 5

Ok i'm a senior in hs and i definitely wish more boys that i'm friends with would take the plunge and ask me to a movie or something. I mean there is a whole lot of opportunity but no one takes it! You should just try to hang out with her more first and if you guys hit it off outside of school move on to a more date-like environment. Hope things go well for you! Take the risk!

Answer 6

I would ask her out, otherwise somebody else will, and you will miss out.

Anyway its a good way to find out if she really likes you or not, take her to the pictures or tenpin bowling, see how you get on outside of school. I've had relationships where I've been friendly before we started dating, we broke up and we are still best of friends. trust me it does work. I know what you're thinking if she rejects you it will hurt your feelings. It will happen from time to time, yes its embarassing but you will get over it, we've all been there.

I'm nearly 40 years old and has happened to me on more occasions then i care to remember. If it does just move on.

Answer 7

Just don't make it awkward

See if you can set up some type of group setting and invite her to come along with the group

That way, you can see her outside of school and get a feel for things instead of taking the chance that you are going to come off as a creeper and ruin the friendship

Answer 8

Wait and see. Friends DO go out with each other. You can ask her to a movie or whatever. Just as friends. Nothing wrong with that. No pressure either. When you put romantic pressure on any relationship, it screws things up. Just be friends. Girls tend to fall for guys who know how to be their friends first. Say, "Hey, I want to go see this movie. Want to come? Just as friends." Don't wait too long, though. Just go with the flow.

Answer 9

I think you should risk it. You never know she might be thinking the same thing about you and is just waiting on you to make the first move. If she rejects you, who says you a still can't be friends?

Answer 10

Stop trying to read, and get an audio-book. Ask her, honey. If she says no, then try to hide from her your disappointment and she'll stop thinking about it after a while. If she says yes, then you'll have what you desire and will stop sweating about it. I don't think asking her out would ruin your friendship. I had a similar thing with a guy I dated. We were good friends and I asked him out and it didn't work and we're still best of friends.