I want him back =(?

Question

So me and my boyfriend broke up like three days ago (I broke up with him) because I heard he texted a girl and asked her to have sex with him. But anyways at the time I believed it was true but now I am not entirely sure it was. He says he didn't do it but other people said he did. But he has never did anything to make me not trust him. Plus I am usually always with him and he usually wouldnt have time to be with another girl cuz he was always with me! anyways I really want Jake back now cuz life is just so hard without him! He IS my world and I need him back! but I think I hurt him really badly cuz I asked him if me and him could have a second chance at it and he said "not right now cuz we just need some time apart and I think we should see other people to see if we r meant to be" and I broke down. But I cannot wait so what should I do??

Answer 1

Sounds to me like he does have someone else he may be thinking about. I would give it a little time. If you are meant to be together, things will work out. Dont worry. ;-)

Answer 2

Okay... let's see... you broke off with you because of a rumor... now, did you check if the rumor had any basis...

I would say a simple thing here... check your facts first and then make any decision...

If the facts turn out.. that he did text some girl like that... then don't react (reaction shows weakness)... just be single and have fun.. Njoy..

If the facts turn out.. that he was not guilty.. well, here it is a bit dicey.. you already asked him a second change and he wanted to see some other people.. I guess he is off of you.. either he is playing hard to get (so that next time even if something is true abt him you will not have the courage to face him) OR he really wants out NOT because you hurt him(if he loved you - he would easily forget and forgive) BUT because he simple wants to test new waters..

Waiting is not the name of the game....it will just hurt you more

I would suggest you chill - relax - lay back... go out partying.. have a girl's night out... and have some real fun.. enjoy being single and getting tons of attention... after all you are a person and everyone needs caring and love.. so if he does not give it... boots to him.. there are tons of guys who will...

Answer 3

i raised 2 beautiful daughters and have vicariously gone through this a dozen times. Right now, probably as i'm writing this, he's f**king the other girl. ("I think we should see other people and find out if we are meant to be."). Then in a few days...after he gets what he wants from her a few times, he'll come back to you using the excuse that YOU broke up with him and you guys were broken up when he "did" the other girl(s). The fact that you acted so prematurely tells me that you're too young for such a deep relationship. Be a good girl and have a good time. Being "single" can b really informative.

Answer 4

Sometimes things like this happen, I would say from personal experience that you have two options. Wait for him to come back or date someone else. The dating someone else option would probably work better if you really wanted him back. I am a guy so thinking in a guys perspective if you just wait then it will make you appear despirate and he wont want you back. Also, if you date someone else to try to get him jealous (works 75% of the time, but you might hurt someone else in the process) it could work, but only you can decide what your morals are and how far you are willing to go to get him back. Do what you wish, I am just an advice giver with no stake in the situation.

Answer 5

I know breakups can be hard, but if you keep on him about getting back with you you're either going to push him away or he's going to get back with you just to shut you up and because it's convenient. Maybe you should give him his time. If you aren't up for dating just yet then don't. You never know, you may decide that you really don't want to be with him. If he wants to date other people then maybe the rumors were true. How old are you? Maybe being tied down to one guy and focusing your attention on dating isn't the best thing to do right now. Try spending more time with girl friends and focus on building those relationships. Guys are nothing but a heart ache, especially when you're in your school years.

Answer 6

I think that you should maybe start seeing other guys, but if you want to you can wait. I don't think you should wait though because if you do he might not come back to you and he might move on. So if I were you I would do what he said and start seeing other guys. I was in the sam situation a week ago. I know how you feel, but I think it is best if you just take time away from each other now.

Answer 7

I dont want to sound mean becuz u r vary varnurable right now but LET IT GO. First off to keep it real with u he might just did text that girl. For one im a guy i know thse things when i say it. We love are girlfriends for various reasons and when we get kinda........... bored with are gf at the time we do dumb things to try to get our emotions back to full power. Like on the movie "Two can Play that game" the words "I think we need time apart" (the real words were testing the waters but they mean the same thing)= "I really care about u but right now i dont need u as bad as i thought and i just wanna get with some other pplz for a short amount of time to really reappreciate u." U really love this guy but i dont think that he has the same level of love back to u so please do yourself a favor and move on with someone who can REALLY B WITH U. get what im saying? hoped i helped u out.

Answer 8

well you can try to talk to him and say that you made a mistake by breaking up with him. if his answer is still the same. then thats it. you just need to respect his decision. and take some time apart. dont try so hard or keeping telling him. it'll chase him away even more. but just let him know how you feel and that you still have feelings. and just leave it. soon if he wants to come back, he will. if not. then you know that you have to move on

Answer 9

well........ first off you shouldve done more of search and gave it more thought but i guess you cant now. but if you really love him that much say your sorry for what you did jumping to conclusions and if he wont take it as an answer then just move on. because he might think oo she thinks shes to good for me but i dont know. just say ur sorry and apologize but if he cant accept then move along cuz there are millions of guys in the world who might be alot better.

Answer 10

You should tell him that what you did was stupid, evidently everyone wanted you guys to break up or they wouldn't have said that.. You should have just asked him and when he said no you should have believed him, you said he has never done anything to make you not trust him.... So you should have believed him.. Just tell him exactly how you feel and if its meant to be then... there you go Good Luck!