So there's a girl-let's call her Jane. Jane has a BF, let's call him Mark. I went out with Jane 2 times before for about a month and both times she lied to me and broke my heart-lied to me to get with Mark. I am still absolutely in love with Jane and Mark is treating her like crap (ignoring her, blowing her off, etc.) and she always comes to me for support. Jane calls me her "best friend" and says she wants to date me in the future. I actually asked her out and she said no. I want to know, is she going to dump Mark and go out with me, or am I chasing hopeless love? Did she promise me the future to make me feel better? All Jane's friends hate Mark and me, and I think that affects her. Do you think she will ever date me again? Should I move on?
Jane & Mark=6 months
Jane & I know each other=1 year
2007-12-03 09:36:33 · 22 answers · asked by tomdawg ツ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you guys usually chase the wrong girl an' it takes you months to realise it.
Do yourself a favour an' back out of the pic.
2007-12-03 09:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by jenniesrainbow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would watch out for a girl like this. My first suggestion would be to get over her and move on. You can't be focused that much on one woman if she does not feel the same way. There are many good women out there, so go out and find one.
On another note, I am pretty sure that she is using you and that is not good. I think that she would probably date you again the future, but why waste your time knowing that she will dump you again.
Finally, a women's friends are some of the most influential in her life. IF you really want her back, suck up to her friends and she might have a "change of heart." I hope that that helps.
2007-12-03 09:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Poolhustle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to distance yourself away from jane...until she's broken up with mark...you do not want to get into a relationship with her until you can be sure she's not just using you to forget/get back at Mark.
From what you've stated about her previous behavior...i don't think that she really values your friendship or you as a person. She's lied to you when you were dating...she say's she wants to date you in the future...but then says no when you ask her out...that seems like a classic excuse to get you to still support her when she needs it...but only on her terms. She's playing mind games on you...and you definitely do not need it. She doesn't seem like she knows what she wants...so i'd suggest distancing yourself and your heart from her until she does.
2007-12-03 09:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by carrot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like Jane isn't taking you seriously. You should just move on. She's already lied to you once. She told you she wants to be with you in the future, but then turned you down when you asked her out. She is just playing games. All you are to her is a shoulder to cry on before she goes back to her bf. You should move on and find someone who cares for you and wants to be with you for more then just a shoulder to cry on.
2007-12-03 09:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by J. Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on...I think she's just using you in a way...bc by you not moving on she knows she'll always have someone to go to when her and Mark don't work out. But that's not a good thing for you bc you'd just be an onlooker until she decided to break up with mark...Such a waste of time...MOVE ON!
2007-12-03 09:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by softball_girl08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be with a girl who lies to you anyway. What mark is doing to her sound like karma. If a girl wants to be with you...then she will. All she wants to do is play games it sounds like. Move on and find someone whos a little more mature.
2007-12-03 09:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she is treating you like that, seriously listen to me because I have went threw this twice don't chase after her. if she wants to break some other guys heart go ahead but you sound like a sweet guy that needs somebody better than her :)
2007-12-03 09:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes just breaking your heart over and over.
i think your a teenager like me thats my guess, and let me tell you something,
find someone who will care for you and love you. would you want to go out with someone who could potentially break your heart again.
what about that other girl you consider your best friend.
or the girl sitting to the left of you in math class.
do they have potential?
honestly, she will only break your heart again.
and even you know deep down you are better than that.
please listen to my advise. i have expirence.
exoh
skyler
2007-12-03 09:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by french fry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just move on and wait until she comes back to you. Once she realizes that he treats her like crap and that you are the right guy for her she will come crawling back to you. Just give her some time to realize. Trust me she should come back. Good luck and I hope that I helped
2007-12-03 09:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by Alexis M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are her rebound guy! im sorry to say that but she wont dump the guy and go out with you but will in the future...this girl doesnt like not having a boyfriend. i know you really like her but its best to let go. it sucks to be hurting but if you keep hanging on its the pain will just get worse. there is someone else out there for you
2007-12-03 09:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by surfcarolinagurl26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 01:08:19 · answer #11 · answered by macfarland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋