my stepdaughter is driving me crazy... she (used to ) live way above her means, and now has a huge debt load, so when her car breaks down, there are no funds left.... and we jump in and help.....I wasn't raised like that... unless I have the funds, I won't buy , plus I like to have a wee bit of a financial cushion, even if it means living on a basic level... in case of emergency... now here for my question....can you live from pay day to pay day without feeling insecure....????
2007-12-03 09:27:29 · 11 answers · asked by gabe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Gosh, is that possible? We did, raising five children, from payday to pay day, we were at peace, i think because we knew we did all we could do. Sometimes it got scary, but always managed. Even to point of having to sell car to meet that months bills. My hubby hitch hiked to work, till we got enough funds for another car. ya just do what you can.There all raised now, we own our own home have for numof years, are secure, not well off, and happy. Our children struggle at times, sometimes we help, sometimes not, depending on if we can see there trying to help themselves. good luck
2007-12-03 09:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by do.drop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of people live from payday to payday .They may not have the very best of things but at least they are making it.It is hard to save when you don't have the extra dollar.I live within my means (no credit card) So as far as feeling insecure I would say not really as long as I can eat and have a roof over my head(I have it made)Of course I would feel better if i had a nice little nest egg but my chicken just won't lay.
2007-12-03 09:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have been having financial issues and lived like this for quite a few months now and it's been killing me! I am sick of worrying if we will be able to make the rent due next month. But eventually things seem to be picking up. And I learned that I can live without expensive $20-40 shampoos and other luxuries that I used to get myself.
She needs to learn it the hard way and then she will start appreciating every penny that she makes. Don't even think of paying the debt for her!!! Let her get herself out of debt and out of trouble. She will thank you one day.
2007-12-03 09:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by terliuke 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit riding to the rescue, because you are not doing her any favors. It is only encouraging this pattern. Tell her to put some money away in savings before doing anything else.
If you want to get rid of the adult step-daughter, you need to tighten up things a little more... cut off the internet access and cable TV, and only sporadically buy the most minimal groceries (we're talking like peanut butter and bread).
2007-12-03 17:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live from paycheck to paycheck without worrying too much about it, simply because I'm a single parent with no child support and I -have- to. If I can't make ends meet, I borrow the money from a friend or relative, and I pay them back as quickly as I possibly can. As long as she's paying you back and working on her debt, it should be alright. She made some mistakes, now she's learning about responsibility. Everybody's gotta learn sometime, somehow.
2007-12-03 09:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't! I think that sometimes in life it is a reality to live pay check to pay check but it would be hard for me to do that my whole life.
My husband has just started a business and is not to the point of bringing home a paycheck yet. But we lived below our means enough that we can afford to live of just my salary while he getting things up and running. That is something that our friends who live paycheck to paycheck could never do.
2007-12-03 09:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would feel secure if I knew that if I were in trouble, my parents would give me the money ... how old is she? ... my step sister is like this sometimes she buys lots of stuff and then she has no money and then she'll need something and my step mom is paying for her college so she doesn't have lots of money lying around so my dad buys my step sister what she needs... I worry about her sometimes
2007-12-03 09:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Chelsea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I'm a poor college student I always make sure that I have enough money in my savings account for emergencies... I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I didn't!!
2007-12-03 09:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by KT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Broke
2016-05-28 01:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by julianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And your son needs to say something to her, not you. You complaining on here about her won't do any good. If he (your son) needs to take control of the finances, since she obviously lives above her means, it is for them to decide.
2007-12-03 09:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋