If a guy hugs you so tightly and too quickly enough for you to adjust your self accordingly, how do you avoid yourself slamming your chest quite suggestively into his?
please help me with that.
2007-12-03 09:24:22 · 12 answers · asked by Raquel V. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When you're around him, keep your arms folded in front of you, or when he does hug you hard, tell him (if you do) that you like getting hugs, but he doesn't know his own strength, and he just can't hug you that hard cause it hurts.
Another idea is to put thumbtacks in your bra sticking outward and wear a thick sweater so they'renot visible. He'll back off :)
2007-12-03 09:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you can! It's only suggestive to you because you're feeling self conscious, though, if he takes it like that he's a pig! Also, no one should grab anyone like that anyway. You should always make sure your hugs are wanted!
2007-12-03 17:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess that depends on how you want to handle it. You could do a few things....if the time if allowed to do so. Like you said it happens so quickly.
Sometimes I turn things around...maybe joke about it. If it made me uncomfortable I would probably do one of 2 things for sure.
One is when you see him turn it into a joke and scream, "oh no here he comes it's the man handler!" Or something to that affect. And yell this as you laugh and kind of duck away..... This might cause him to pause and say, "huh!?" Then you might be able to address this problem. People don't realize that everyone is different and not everyone likes to be touched, hugged or groped in this case. LOL! Whatever your real reason besides maybe his super tight and uncomfortable grip.....you can say whatever you have to to get the point across in a nice way...or be direct...however is comfortable to you.
The other things I would do.... Well I'm a physical person and can be aggressive myself. But when in an uncomfortable situation like this I might get a little aggressive. You could turn and run at him as if you were tryin to tackle him yellin 32, 33, 24...hut hut! Bumbarding him and turn it into another joking matter. (okay...maybe not a good idea...LOL!)
Or you could just interupt him as you cowar from the hug...... saying hold on a minute...hold up hold up..or whatever....so that you can explain how uncomfortable this is for you. Either explaining that he hugs way to roughly for you or you aren't the touchy feely type (unless....) or whatever the situation may be.
This could vary...depending on they type of person you are and the message you want to get across.
Sometimes when I know someone is going to hug me I turn and go in with the opposite arm and shake their hand (sorta) it's kind of a guy thing....what I am referring to. It's sort of a half hug but it's something I sometimes do...which may not exactly work for you.
Whatever your choice....good luck in whatever you do!
Remember: If you chose to turn it into a joking matter first.... whatever you say to him....you could make up your own line but I've used it in a few situations before. I got my point across. Once when someone just wouldn't leave me alone and they kept tryin to whisper sweet nothings in my ear.... and "holla" at me. I jumped out of nowhere and yelled in an aggressive manner...well it may not be suitable for all ears but it was a line from "Don't be a Mennis" Something like...."break your self give me your @$! @#M! number!" We all started laughing....but this person was like "whoa"....okay (maybe I am being too aggressive for this person) and they backed away from me. But that may be too aggressive for some people. LOL! But it was fun and it got the point across in this situation.
2007-12-03 18:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wear sharpened, spiked jewelry. Carry sharp objects blade outward all the time. Learn quick escape wrestling moves. "Accidentally" stomp hard on his feet the next time he grabs you. Things like that.
2007-12-03 17:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Ow, that kinda hurt. A little more warning next time, please?"
If the movement's so sudden you can't bring your hands up to protect your chest, then a humorous, self-deprecating, "Gee-whiz, are you strong!"-esque comment might defuse the situation, make him realize that he needs to adjust his exuberance to more socially acceptable levels without screaming "Assault!" or "Pervert!".
2007-12-03 17:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You speak to him after it happens the first time, and tell him politely that you do like him, but you'd rather that he didn't come on so strong.
After the second time, you look for another guy.
2007-12-03 17:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by jotacar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do anything. Sounds like that's what he wants to have happen if that's how he hugs you.
2007-12-03 17:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
actually you can't avoid that........unless you hug him first or just don't hug the person
2007-12-03 17:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Shy Girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is probably why he does it
2007-12-03 17:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by LandOfMisty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
next time he approaches you turn and run....haul butt.....
2007-12-03 17:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋