Should I let him know that I found out?

Question

I just found out that my boyfriend fooled around with another girl last Saturday. I was away, busy because I had some school event, he knew that I was not going to be home and when he went out with his friends he kissed another girl. This girl is part our group. The next day, (yesterday) my friends came to our apartmet after the weeked break and they told me what hapened. I felt offended cause the day before this happened we were together and we had hell of a night. Everything was nice between us. He's jeoulous of me and he doesn't trust me with other guys, want me for himself but he can do anything he wants.
The question is this should I let him know that I know what he did or act like I don't know and when we meet again tell him what I found out? Should I give him the satisfaction to make him feel like I care and I'm jeolous of what he did? I don't know what to do. My friends keep telling me act cool but I don't know if I can act like nothing happened. What should I do? please help

Answer 1

dump him!

Answer 2

Oh boy! Don't even bother asking him or confronting him. With his past behavior that you mentioned - the jealousy - that is usually a sign that the guy is already doing something that he feels defensive about. Girl, you deserve someone who loves you as much as you love them!

Now, if you decide to go ahead and call the relationship off - play it very cool and tell him you had some time to think about things while you were away. Let him know you decided that you are more comfortable being friends instead of gf/bf. Sorry to say sweetie but you are going to end up hurting worse if you don't end it now. Best wishes :-)

Answer 3

There is a saying in Spanish translated as "you judge how you live."
Maybe his jealous tendencies are due to his bad thoughts of what he does or what he knows he is capable of....
First off, Hell yes! you should confront him. Playing it cool is not smart because if he finds out that you did not react, this will just entice him to do more the next time you are out of town or "busy". He will do more to either make you give him attention or just because he knows he can get away with it. Trust me, you do not want to encourage your bf on another woman.
So, confront him and make his *** cry(I would leave his ***-but it depends on your relationship). If he is not crying, begging for you forgiveness, down on his hands and knees, or making it clear to you that he is incredibly sorry...leave him, he doesn't care for you, and you don't deserve that kind of disrespect.

Answer 4

you must have low self-esteem and/or have been abused as a child to accept this kind of behavior. He cheated on you but it didn't go all the way...this time, Lord knows what that boys been doing.

He is super jealous/possessive/non-trusting of you because he is projecting! Many cheaters often greatly fear their true loved one may stray and get over-protective because they are projecting their feelings on the other person.

I would confront him and think twice whether I want to be with a creep like this. He may be cute and sweet at other times, act perfect, because he's a charmer, a con!

Over time, or in marriage, it doesn't get better but WORSE!

Answer 5

Become very unavailable. When he asks what's going on (and he will) you can tell him that you don't like your boyfriend kissing another woman. See what he says to that. Ask him if that means it's ok for YOU to kiss another man. Tell him you weren't aware the rules had changed, that he should have let you know you could kiss other guys. Listen to your inner voice. It has never been wrong. Then thank heaven you're not married and don't have children with this jerk.

Answer 6

Any guy who is not willing to give you his total fidelity and breaks your trust by fooling around with other girls is not worth your time. I would confront him about it, but not in an aggressive way. Unless you really love him and think that he's really going to change (which they almost never do), I would dump him. It'll hurt, but not as much as it will if he cheats on you again.

Answer 7

Your friends don't sound like friends if they are telling you to just let this go. This is an early warning sign of abusive relationship. He is jeaslous and controlling over you, yet he can do whatever he wants? So basically he just keeps you for the satisfaction of knowing he can have you. You need to deffinatly confront him!

Answer 8

I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing that you know he cheated on you. I would just break up with him and tell him that you don't like him anymore. It hurts you that he cheated on you, but it will hurt him that you rejected him and then you will have the upperhand. He is a loser and can't be trusted. Do yourself a favor and get him out of your life. You'll be better off!

Answer 9

Tell him what you'd heard and ask his side of the story. Watch his eyes. If he starts looking up, he's making up a story. If he's looking you dead on, he's probably telling the truth. Listen if he stammers, or pauses while speaking with you about it. May be best to do this in a place of neutrality, such as a restaurant. This will take him out of his comfort zone.

Answer 10

A jeolous cheater??? There is no hope for this one. dump him and move on.

The sea if full of other fish... I learned the true meaning of that in college. Literally thousands of other fish, just at one school.

Answer 11

Boys will be boys! . . . Just let him go this time . . . Bring it up to him later . . . And tell him that he is acting kind of immature if he actually believes that you don't know about these things . . . That you can find out from various sources. Thus, just hit him with the obvious question . . . "So, why don't you grow up?" Give him about a week before you confront him with it.