Child Abuse EVERYWHERE!?

Question

Where do you draw the line of abuse? I can't tell you how many times I have seen REDICULOUS questions on here about abuse... asking if things like watching tv, letting a 2 year old stay up late, teaching religion, letting kids play outside, mommy not letting a kid go out at night are ABUSE!

Come ON people! What do you think about this? Is there danger in crying abuse at every little thing? And if you have been abused what do you think of this? I feel like I would be really insulted and angry if I had been through hell and someone was comparing it to a mother feeding her child too many carrot sticks!

Answer 1

Sounds like ACLU stuff here. Geez, I used to get a very light belt on the behind maybe once a year, but it was effective. Now, they threaten to take your kids away and go to jail.

Answer 2

I totally agree with most of the answers and the askers views also. What happened to the days when children grew up with boundaries and the parents had control? Every day more and more someone is saying you shouldn't do this or that. Well I'll tell you what our jails and graveyards are alot fuller now that the last 3 or 4 generations have not been disciplining their children because of either fear of something or because they had no discipline. I believe a good spanking every now and again is justified and you are not " abusing a child by not letting him/her do whatever they want. As I have said before in some of my answers there is a huge difference in a spanking and a beat down. Kids these days have too much control and not enough respect, discipline, boundaries, or morals. I'll be damned if I ever allow my children to do anything they want or let anyone tell me I am wrong for wanting them to grow up to be good people. I have seen real abuse and some of this stuff is so ridiculous in comparison.

Answer 3

Well in real life Child abuse is a big problem. I think no one can say for not if a child is truly abused on line. I think people judge parenting styles with out realizing that many differ in theirs. One parenting style is not Superior to another. True Child abuse must be addressed though. If a child is getting fed, clothed and has love then that is a great thing. If a child is free from physical and sexual abuse that is another good thing. Anything serious that is lacking is abuse. We have to look at the real basics when you look at abuse. Granted we may not agree with the clothing choices but if its weather appropriate that is what matters. We may disagree with the diet of a child however if he/she has food and is growing and developing then its not abuse. If a child is shown love and affection in a appropriate way that is not abuse. If a child is disciplined with out leaving bruises or marks that is not abuse. If a child is told they are special and worth something they are not mentally abused. That is my stance on it. I don't have to like it or agree with it but that's what is important bottom line. NO child needs to be around drug or alcohol addictions either.

Answer 4

I was abused as a child. Yea i got "regular" spankings which i think are fine still, but beatings aren't. But usually when i got a spanking from my dad it was with a board, pipe, stick, the belt buckle(not the belt). I've had things threw at me ranging from phones to pots. That's abuse. A simple no you can't do this, go to time out, a spanking on the behind with an open hand(of course not hard enough to leave bruise), that's not abuse. Also a lot of people doesn't realize what mental abuse is. Calling your child stupid, dumb, an idiot, a bastard, and so on is mental abuse. Hollering at them non stop is mental abuse. I mean yea sometimes we have to raise a voice a little lounder than them to get attention that i think is fine. But you can't just scream at them all the time for everything little thing. This is only my opinion on it, and i've been through it.

Answer 5

The same people who want to ban the parental responsibility to discipline a child, tell the child that they are not responsible for their own behavior, give the child some mental health label and then prescribe powerful mind altering drugs.

It is sorcery, and the mega psych drug corporations are setting this agenda at the university and state government level

Answer 6

look i'm no longer a Christian yet even Jesus had desciples -- the note self-discipline comes from that. self-discipline is to reveal - therefore to reveal those toddlers the thanks to be first rate adults. i'm no longer declaring you "ought to spank" because the circumstances have replaced and toddlers do have the right to no violence. That suggested I nonetheless have self belief a sturdy sturdy whack on the butt is better efficient than a 1000 words with a pre college age infant. some tricks: do not ask them tell them. do not say do you want to ..........? except you're keen to hearken to no. basically state this is time to...............! even as they say No to you (inappropriately) then punish them. Time outs paintings even as used in many circumstances and without anger. So does status contained in the nook. Spanking should be restricted to even as a infant maintains to do some thing that could want to doubtlessly harm them and could no longer hearken to reason or gained't end doing this habit. for instance-operating faraway from you in a automobile park. Or fidgeting with a range. Or fidgeting with Daddys television.

Answer 7

I agree it seems like we mom's need to show eachother a little more support instead of pointing fingers.
I think I look at it from the standpoint of it's abuse if it is going to cause lasting physical, physiological or emotional damage. There are a lot of grey areas of course. But for the most part that covers it.

Answer 8

i'm 16 years old and was spanked as a child (my mom still tells me that i'm not too old). i was 12 the last spanking (haven't gotten in trouble since then except for when i didn't pay my sister back $200 and i lost all electronic privileges for about 3 mo. - till i paid her back). my mom used a wooden spoon, a leather strap (and yes i had welts when she was done). i also had to write 1,000 times "I will not....." and had extra chores, etc. but i do NOT consider it abuse. i deserved every single one of them (except for one when my bro got me in trouble when i didn't do anything, but he apologized and so did my mom). i knew my parents loved me, we cuddled all the time, they told me they loved me every chance they got, and i grew up happy and healthy. now, i'm 16, straight A COLLEGE STUDENT with a 4.48 GPA. not on drugs, never had alcohol. never had sex, never had a boyfriend, haven't had my first kiss. nor do i want one. i don't need a boyfriend. they just add pressure. i just recently got my first cell-phone and I pay for it. I appreciate how my parents raised me. i'm allowed to go out with my friends when i want (just as long as i let them know who, what, when, where, and why. but i have a curfew and make sure i stick with it so i won't lose that privilege), I'm a solid Christian, well-disciplined with a job, and my parents TRUST me. i don't mind them searching my computer or my room, because I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO HIDE. i know they love me and i will raise my kids the same way.

Answer 9

Some people just have different views on the topic. To me child abuse is beating or mentally abusing the child. Spanking a child when misbehaving is not child abuse.

Answer 10

You must be on alot. I thought I was, and dont really see those types of questions.

Although can see both sides of the issue. Although at one point major physical violence was not considered abuse either. We learn more with time, science, and behavioural studies. Cultures evolve.