I told this guy I have been seeing for a while (and known for about 5 years nows) that I am interested in him. He tells me he has a girlfriend now and is madly in love with her.
He tells me there is nothing wrong with me and loves being my friend. I get mad that he didn't let know he was already atteached (that would have been the decent thing to do...) and knows fully well that I liked him. Then he tells me he is sorry and didn't know I was interested since I didn't say anything (even though I told him I wanted to be more than friends). He then tells me for now he is with someone and he likes hanging with me as friends.
NOW, I would think that since he is "madly in love" with this girl he wouldn't be telling me that "for now" he is with someone.
Whats this guys deal? Did he get tired of trying to get in my pants? There were LOADS of times where he wanted me to stay over at his house (yes we are of age), but I refused.
2007-12-03 08:32:17 · 11 answers · asked by thatwasme_then87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Right. This guy realises that things CAN change. Not that they WILL change. I always tell people the same thing when I'm seeing someone; that I am seeing him "for now". Thing can happen and with my experience I've been dumped a lot.
If he never intended you and him to be more than friends, he had no need to tell you that he was attached. So why worry about that? How could he know it was of any interest to you whether or not he had a girlfriend if "anything more than just friends" even crossed his mind?
He's asked you to stay at his place several times but you never agreed with it. So how are you to know that his intentions were sexual?
I have many male friends, all of them know that my intention with them is purely for friendship and nothing more. And they see it the same way. None of them have ever felt forced to tell me their current availability, and I've stayed over at several male friends' homes more than once. None of those "sleep-overs" were ever sexually intended, and they never even tried to do anything.
So I think you're just seeing things because you want them to happen, not because he is implying things.
2007-12-03 08:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's much to analyze here. He has a girlfriend, therefore he has no plans of cheating on her, and he's in love with her.
He may have liked you in the past since he gave you booty calls, but now he has found someone who he wants to stay with.
Generally if someone only suggests having sex with you and never asks you to date him, he isn't seriously interested in you and probably doesn't hold too high of a standard for you as a person
He may be saying "for now" just in case something were to happen, not that he intends to break up with her, just that if something were to happen.
I wouldn't worry too much about him, sounds like he's serious about this girl, you should probably move on and find someone who isn't attached.
2007-12-03 16:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by marm212 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want? The guy fell in love. He liked you in the past but you rejected his advances. Now you want him but he obviously found someone he really cares about now. Let him be. That shipped sailed, honey. If you really liked him you wouldn't of refused his advances. You sound like you're just mad because you're not the object of his attentions anymore. Get over it and move on. You had plenty of time to decide and now you lost your chance. He said he was with her 'for now' because guys always say things like that. That's how we think because we are realistic and know that things don't always last forever. He's probably just saying that to soften the blow anyway. He said he just wanted to be friends so take that to mean that he just wants to be friends.
2007-12-03 16:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not mean to hurt your feelings for the world, but
he has no interest in you as a girlfriend and even as
a friend i think he is a waste of your time.
i don,t think sex was the only or major factor.
i just don,t think you are for him.
and from what you said, count your blessings.
find someone nice, i know you will.
2007-12-03 16:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be gay and doesnt want to tell you. There is no reason for a guy to want to hang out with a girl unless he wants to "get into her pants".
That sounds harsh, buts its reality.
My wife doesnt allow me to hang around girls. She knows the rules.
2007-12-03 16:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, you're wasting your time with this guy. (About 5 years of it). Go find someone who will appreciate you.
2007-12-03 16:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he really liked you till he found a nother perfect girl...sorry....but life goes on
2007-12-03 16:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by jelliapr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy has done nothing wrong. he loves his girlfriend, not you, GET OVER IT
2007-12-03 16:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by li 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
seems like if you were that close that you would have known he was attached.
2007-12-03 16:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Amy D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome, you have just entered "The friend zone."
Either that or you scared him off with your no staying overs....
2007-12-03 16:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jezmanrulz-PWC-WRW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋