I've been with my gf for 9 weeks now and she has started talking to this lad she used to like before she got with me now i'm a bit scared she'll get off with him but she says she won't and to trust her i'm a bit lost what should i do? thanks
2007-12-03 08:27:34 · 22 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not her ex, i'm her first BF
2007-12-03 08:38:26 · update #1
So you're in two months, that not a long time or maybe to you it is.
So you stated that this guy was a guy "she used to like before" you. I am guessing you're young. At a young age everyone is a love interest.
You're going to have lots of girl friends. Think of it as interviews...when you're a bit older and more mature you'll interview the right girl and you'll get married and have children if that's what you want.
So for now here is my advice...trust her. Trust her until you see something that in your opinion is cheating. And when/if she does ask her "Why? And do you still like me/love me?" If you chose to stay together...GREAT. If not well then take as much as you can from this relationship, they all help you grow. You'll learn from their mistakes and yours.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-03 11:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Super PI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do mate. You have not been together long enough, to have a say in who she can or can't talk to.
I know it can be hard to put alot of trust in someone, knowing what entailed with the past.
But alittle trust and honesty goes long way.
Let her go, and see what happens.
If she loves yah, then she'll be back with bells on.
Get past that scared, lost feeling.
She could be worth all the drama!!!
Just be honest with her - your feeling's and fear's.
All will be well, if these crucial details, to a long-lasting relationship, are adhered to.
CAN'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT THEM!!!!!!!
Good Luck to You and your Girlfriend.
2007-12-03 16:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by tepania4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there's not much you can do. If she likes another guy more than you, then that's just the way it is. You should just enjoy the relationship as much as you can and be happy while you're with her, which will also make it more likely that she'll still WANT to be with you... Definitely don't let jealousy push her away! [If you ask her to stop talking to him like others suggest, she might see that as controlling and jealous, which is not how you want her to think of you. You really don't have any right to tell her who she can talk to, especially after only 9 weeks, so you shouldn't even try!]
2007-12-03 16:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just don't worry. Nicely ask her to stop talking to the guy. If she doesn't then let her know that this will cause tensions with you and her. You are not asking for much really. If she brings up the issue of trust well, it's only been nine months, so I don't know how much trust you can have with each other. Good luck!
2007-12-03 16:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Marius , II 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The real question is "do you trust her?" If you do, ask your self if you have feelings for her. and if you do, then you need to think with your head and your heart and decide if she is trustworthy not only with the trust you give her but with the feelings that you have given to her. Be patient, if you start hounding her about him all you will end up doing is push her to him, so "TALK" to her about how you feel, and your concerns. Tell her you trust her if you do, but tell her everything, dont hide your fears from her, that will destroy your relationship before you know it.
2007-12-03 16:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chris K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust her. She is no longer with him she's with you. If she does go off with him be glad you only invested 9 weeks.
2007-12-03 16:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At lot of girls still talk to exes. Most guys just dont know about it. All you can do is trust her, until she proves you otherwise. Good Luck.
2007-12-03 16:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by tarie75 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
let me just say that this just happen to me like monday this sucks my girlfriend sucks or should i say ex when they use that trust word they are lying you should find a friend as well.
2007-12-03 16:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by Moonglow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if your a good boyfriend and really truly trust her, you shouldnt worry, but if you have hard evidance that shes cheating, talk to her about it. And you said she used to like him. well just becuase she used to like him doesnt mean that she cant just be friends with him. she doesnt like him like that anymore, so dont worry! =]
2007-12-03 16:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah nine weeks, well my friend she has failed the mid-term exam cut your losses now before you lose big later.
2007-12-03 16:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by mista 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋