If i have a Christian wedding am I still an Atheist?

Question

I'm still a teen but I'm wondering about something. I'm an Atheist and what if I marry a Christian girl? I would allow God to be our witness to please my girl and her in laws but I don't want everyone to say that I submit to the Christian faith because I don't.

Also what is considered an "American" wedding? If an American wedding can be non-Christian, then thank you. I like a girl whose Agnostic.^^

Thanks for reading.

Thank you SE your one of the sane open people here.

Answer 1

You can absolutely have a non-religious American wedding. My partner and I are both atheists, and we'll be having a lovely wedding ceremony and reception in a couple of months. Instead of having the wedding at a church, temple, or other religious setting, we're having it in the ballroom of a historic mansion. Our officiant is a judge, and she has done several non-religious weddings. You can have music, poetry readings, exchange of vows and rings....everything you want. The only difference is that the speeches and readings will be secular and not from a religious book.

When you find your partner and get ready to get married, you have several options that do not involve churches or other places of worship. You can rent venues such as hotels, parks, ballrooms, community centers, museums, art galleries, historic mansions, etc; and most judges and justices of the peace will come to your location and perform a ceremony of your choosing. Non-religious people are still definitely a minority in the US, but we do exist and we get married and want weddings just like everyone else. :-)

Anyone who tries to tell you that a wedding is a religious event doesn't know what he/she is talking about.

Answer 2

Religious values are extremely personal and it can cause extreme conflict in a marriage if the 2 people having opposing views. To be an atheist means you don't believe in God so why would you say "I would allow God to be our witness" if you don't believe he even exists. While it's nice that you'd allow a Christian wedding for your bride, it's unwise to do something like that for someone else...even your bride. I suggest you move forward in life looking for a woman who shares your common views as an atheist. It would be way too complicated to marry a truly Christian girl. The issues would be numerous but would especially come up when you're ready to have children. She would most likely want the child baptized and would want to raise the child in the church. Those kinds of issues can be a huge complication and source of arguments. Like I said, it's just easier to only date those who share your own religious values. And before anyone criticizes my answer, yes, I DO know there are successful marriages between those with different religious beliefs. But if I had to guess, they're few and far between. Marriage is hard enough without complicating it with differing views on something SO INCREDIBLY fundamental.

Answer 3

You can just have a civil wedding, they are not religious. Most Christians, etc. if there belief is strong enough they probably would not marry an atheist in the first place. This can be a major conflict.
I am a christian and I would never marry an atheist. I want my husband to share my beliefs so we can grow together and pass it down to our children.

Answer 4

No that doesnt make you a christian. To your girl, the wedding would mean something special. She would be making a pledge to be with you her whole life in front of her Lord. For you tho it would just be a legal thing, although still you would be pledging your life to hers just without any spiritual meaning. Being of the christian faith means you have made a decision to follow christ, being married in a christian ceremony just means that you prefer a traditional ceremony. Fear not, your faith is your choice and having a christian ceremony wont change that.
oh and i have no idea bout an american wedding, im an aussie.

Answer 5

I'm not a religious person at all and I was married in a church. My husband and his family are very religious. So, yes, you can have a Christian wedding. We did change parts of our ceremony. I wasn't comfortable with some of the wording. We also picked our vows and we chose ones that were not religioous. We were even married in a church and we had to go to marriage counseling. One of the issues we did have to talk about was our difference of religion. It's an important part of Christians lives, so make sure the two of you discuss your lack of religion before you decide to get married. (Think about how would you raise your children and topics like that.)

Answer 6

yes, you can still be atheist. just because you have a christian wedding does not mean that you believe in christianity and god. that would be a very good move though to respect her for whatever she believes in. an american wedding can be non-christian. an american wedding can pretty much be whatever you want it to.

Answer 7

So get married by a judge or a justice of the peace. In the US, most of them have the authority to perform weddings.

Answer 8

Go to Vegas lol You certainly don't have to be Christian to get married there.

And just because you get married using the Christian faith, that doesn't mean you beleive in God.

Answer 9

You being an atheist & her being a Christian is going to be a major conflict! You might want to think the whole marriage thing again... If you would allow God to be your witness doesnt that mean that you believe in him??? Good grief I would never marry an atheist! But just because you get married in a church doenst mean you are submitting to the faith.....Good Luck with your marriage!

Answer 10

Do some studying on religion and you may reawaken something in your brain. I would think you would be a hypocrite marrying a girl in a Christian ceremony being an athiest. Listen, if a serious crisis comes in your life, don't cry out to God...ask the Devil, he may help you.