My boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 months...we both love each other...he's 18, i'm 17...he's not a virgin, and i'm waiting until i'm married. He says he can wait forever for me..which is sweet, but i just feel bad. When we are making out and he gets "excited" i can't do anything...and he has to just wait it out. I just wanna know if i should worry about how he is handling this, since he's not gonna have sex unless we're married...or he goes somewhere else to get it, which i know he wouldnt do.
2007-12-03 08:16:56 · 17 answers · asked by HoldYourHand2817 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to the club!
My boyfriend back then, now my beautiful husband, experienced the same thing. But our case was a little bit worse because i was 22, virgin' and he was 28 , not vitging well experienced in life. So it was harder, i guess because of the age. Anyways, dont worry obsessively about him because of that, keep his big effort in mind, because girl HE LOVES YOU, i know that, I used to feel bad too and sometimes guilty, so we tried no to be in dark places too often and things like that. Now if he gets upset, do not let him treat you bad or put you down, ok? He can keep waiting it out, believe. And i am proud of both of you, and you girl you are a diamond! dont ler anyone from this site to make you feel bad! Just talk to him, if u feel he needs it. If he loves, he will wait for you!
2007-12-03 08:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by mimimimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months is not long enough to be certain that the two of you belong together forever. Please slow down and continue to hold onto your personal commitment of remaining a virgin until you're married to the right man. Honey, the excitement of being with someone special is wonderful but practice patience so that you will not become just another statistic. Don't even consider sexual involvement with the guy - you are not ready, and as I stated earlier it's much too soon to know exactly what your true feelings are toward each other.
Yes, you are worrying for nothing because either this boy will accept the reality of your personal values and respect them or he needs to find someone else.
Never succumb to pressure (or pity).
2007-12-03 08:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When we are making out and he gets "excited" i can't do anything...and he has to just wait it out"
There is a difference between cant and wont. You don't want to "do anything" which is causing him some frustration/discomfort. If you cant see him frustrated then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. He is a guy and, speaking from experience, he will find someone else.
Who, or what, are you waiting for until marriage? Why do you have a "boyfriend" (if you can call him that) if you know you cant do anything with him? That is downright cruel. Like waving a steaming slice of pizza in front of a hobo, but not letting him have it.
Either marry him and screw him, or leave him. Because you are torturing the guy, ask me how i know.
Let go and satisfy your man like a real woman should, geez, the 60's are OVER.
2007-12-03 08:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe hold off on the making out a bit, If you do get hot and heavy you may be tempted to give in or he may give pressure where he normally wouldn't. Spend more time doing neutral things and really getting to know each others minds and personalities rather than bodies.
I hope he does wait for you, but only time will tell. Good luck
2007-12-03 08:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by brina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being very normal in his response to making out, but he is also being a gentlemen in waiting with you.
Whenever you make out, you are both putting yourselves in a place where keeping yourselves from each other gets more and more difficult.
Ask yourself if this is the guy you want to marry. If not, let him go and don't get either of you in trouble.
2007-12-03 08:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im gonna tell you straight up, if he really loves you he'll wait, he'll respect your wishes, but my boyfriend told me that he would wait forever and just one day he just decided he didnt want to go out and we have been going out for three months now. Now he goes out with some whore.
2007-12-03 08:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustalittlemoremethanyou 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 04:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a lot of people waiting is perfectly fine but if you want to pleasure him in the mean time you two could always fool around like you could give him a hand j** or he could use his fingers, its not sex and its what most of the couples i know do when they are horny but not ready for sex.
2007-12-03 08:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Rick F 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why are you asking about letting your bf stick his tiny one-eyed snake in your pink taco on this site? If you're worried your bf is going to leave you bc he has to wait till marriage for sex, then you obviously don't trust him very much or think he's a quality guy. Divorce waiting in the wings? Yup.
2007-12-03 08:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you know he would do that and you have enough trust in him you should not worry. He should respect your wishes, and wait. I think that is the responsible decision and agree with you to wait.
2007-12-03 08:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋