I am very religous and I am used to going to chruch every sunday. My bf on the other hand is religous also but he never goes to church. I was talking with his parents and I found out that their pastor got caught embazling funds and the chruch fired him. After that they said he stopped going church and would fight tooth and nail about going. He has not been to church in 4 years. I talked to him about it and his answer was I believe in my own way I don't need some crook manipulating the words of god to make himself prosper. I told him that not every pastor or priest was like that and he goes well even if its a .00000001% chance I still will not risk it. I don't feel like wasting another 17 years of my life listen to a priest and find out hes a fake. I didn't really know what to say to this. Is it ok if you believe in god but don't go to church? Anything else I can do? He is Italian and very stubborn.
2007-12-03 07:59:40 · 18 answers · asked by Ashely85 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He's finding a reason not to go to church. Explain to him some reasons for going to church according to scripture. Tell him to read 1 Samuel 1-4 to have an idea of God judgement of Eli a priest that didn't restrain the wickness of his sons that corrupted the OFFERINGS to the Lord.
Tell him that he can't judge a paster based on his past experiences. He shouldn't worry about it because God avenges all that corrupts his offerings in the end.
2007-12-03 08:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by starglitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to go to church to be with God.
It is not sin to not go to church.
We don't always make it to church, we missed yesterday because my husband had to work. We'll get to church maybe twice a month not including for the rodeos and respite nights (cowboy church)
Now, if you could find some sort of down home country style church that might make him feel more comfortable.
Our church takes the funds and splits it between the things they offer. Such as, they have a huge arena for stock shows, rodeos, bull riding, barrels, and lil buckaroos. Respite night is free because the offerings pay for the foods, electric, water etc etc etc. And there is no offer plate that goes around so you are not obligated to give money but you can take an envelope as you wish and slip into the small outhouse for offerings and prayers. It's wimsicle and comfortable and if you could find a church similar to this style, he may feel more at ease.
I think it awful a pastor will abuse his church and parishners that way and hopefully he will come around, and if he doesn't, respect that, he is not damned if his faith and belief is strong.
2007-12-03 08:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same types of excuses, not for the same reason, but why waste time for someone that isn't real is definitely how I felt. Find a church, if not yours one together and find one he is comfortable with. I just recently started going, I had decided it was all a waste of time and went to a church for a special event with some friends and have been back every week since and was recently saved and baptised. He needs to be sure and remember he is not going to church for the preacher "he is human" he is going to build a relationship with God.
2007-12-03 08:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by user76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change another person. Either you love your boyfriend for what he is, or break off your relationship.
The troubles in a relationship or a marriage, is because one of the two try to change the other, even that person was a certain way when they met.
Why did you go out with him in the first place, if his not going to Church bothers you so.
Would you change for him and stop going to Church. I don't think you would. Then either give him the same respect of break of the relationship. '
2007-12-03 08:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it ok if you believe in god but don't go to church? Yes. Be aware that all make mistakes and come short of the glory of God. (paraphrasing Romans 3:23).
Anything else I can do? Ask him what forgiveness is! (Technically, it is his call for now).
2007-12-03 08:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by jefferyspringer57@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it your place to change him? A betrayal that deep is something that he needs to work out in his own way. The more you push the more you risk pushing him out of your life. If him not going to church is a deal breaker for you then you need to let him go and move on with your life. Otherwise you need to love him and support him.
2007-12-03 08:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Paul said that women should lead their husbands (or boyfriends) by their example without complaining or nagging. Be a good example and don't stop going to church yourself bcause he isn't.
2007-12-03 08:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jesika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may find out that he is right. Imagine how you will feel if you coerce him to attend, he finally gives up his anger, and is then let down again.
Perhaps church isn't the answer.
2007-12-03 08:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by ɹɐǝɟsuɐs Blessed Cheese Maker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... asking for advice on forcing someone to go to church against his will. Good to see you've listened to Jesus' message.
Church is not important. Why do you feel it is necessary? If your boyfriend feels that he can gain more from solitary worship, then let him.
2007-12-03 08:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dazcha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sounds like a strong and independent person who is able to think things through for himself and make his own decisions.
Maybe you could take some lessons from him.
2007-12-03 08:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋