Previously asked a question re FWB. I have this relationship for about a year now. He has said 'this is more than sex between us' and 'we should get together for a meal which I'll cook' talks about his personal stuff, previous relationships, the hurts and the joys. Asks if I need financial help for a particular project.
I always recoil from getting too deep, I listen to his depthy talkings, I refrain from saying 'I love the way you... this or that' BUT he often lets me down, can't make it etc, but acts very apologetic about mishaps where he couldn't make it. Says he's gagging for me or had a dream about me.
I feel he's changing and I am afraid to upset the stability, but it must be nicer for him to allow his emotions to surface now and then. I can't allow mine to, as I'm afraid it will be misinterpreted and he'll think I'm getting clingy and needy, when I am not. I just appreciate what we have. It started off as FWB but now I am not so sure about the way its going? Happened to any1?
2007-12-03 07:54:06 · 2 answers · asked by dunwerse 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Muahhahah! It was my frist year in college had this friend Jimmy, ether way. Jimmy thought that FWB relationships were possible, I told him, NOPE! Made 20 bucks off of it, because wow and behold the lady he tried it with got feelings.
My point with that short story was the fact that FWB always leds to ether Heart-breck, OR a relationship, everytime. I knew this from highschool. That aside, STOP BEING SO F'IN INSECURE!!!! If you were one of my friends I would ask you to pull that hand out, palm down, then *SLAP*, right over your hand. I hate it when people hide their emotions, becomes of fear of misinterpetations, DARN IT BE HONEST!!!!!! If you say your piece about how you feel, THEN tell him that you "I'm afraid I'm being misinterpreted and you'll think I'm getting clingy and needy, when I am not, I just sort of dig your style buddy, so whats the deal, yo?" Ok I took some liberities, the points to be honest, ABOUT EVERYTHING!!! Including your fears, dumb-butt (no offense!) and then you force him to be equalily as honest, are he'll collapse under the moral pressures of your honesty, its actually quite amazing if he is a good guy! But the point is be honest, get deep with him, be honest about your fears, dreams, you deserve that! You deserve him! You deserve TRUTH! Now go lay it on him, he'll lay it on you, if you guys love each other after that, let me just tell you those "benifits" well they become something much, much more intense.......*cough* sex feels so much better when your honest about it, too *cough*
2007-12-05 05:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not necessarily "controlling." But the things he says to you are along the lines of putting you down and talking to you like you're beneath him. You don't need anyone, especially a guy, regardless if he's just a fwb or not, to criticize you and verbally put you down like that. And it's not like he's the only guy you can be a fwb with. And how many times does something like that happen and he apologizes? It's sad. Dump him.
2016-05-28 00:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋