I'm 14 and I've always been happy with my weight. My friends all think I have a flat stomach and my parents know that the people I travel with all eat loads of sweets etc. But they've told me to let them see me weigh myself and tehy want to keep a record of how much I lose, if I don't cooperate they won't give me christmas presents. They've really knocked my confidence and made me feel bad about how I look. I've tried to lose weight and I walk 2miles every day but it hasn't worked and tehy've only given it about 3weeks. I've done some tests on the internet and found that I have heavier bones but my parents aren't satified.
So far I've not cooperated as they are lowering my self esteem but I'm not sure where to go-any advice? I am trying but I don't want them to be actually watching me weigh myself. and to go runing with my dad etc.
2007-12-03 07:36:52 · 20 answers · asked by Meryl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My dad is a GP but he doesn't specialise in weight/exercise.
Also, my brother is really sporty and super think and my other brother is naturally skinny, and my dad is REALLY sporty-but I'm just not like them.
2007-12-04 06:22:53 · update #1
I spoke to one of my brothers (24) and he said he'd never seen me as fat.
He said I shouldn't let it get me down, and he'll speak to my parents (although he and my dad don't get on much)
2007-12-04 06:30:00 · update #2
That's horrible that your parents would do that to you. This may hurt you but you may just have to stand up to your parents and tell them that you are happy with yourself just the way you are and if they don't want to get you anything for xmas that's fine.
2007-12-03 07:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Loli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, contact someone at school, like the school nurse (to verify you are not overweight) or a counselor or teacher to mediate between you and your parents. I'm not overly concerned with you being denied Christmas presents, but I AM concerned about adults obessing over weight so much they are driving their child to an eating disorder.
If you are active, eat healthy, and don't have a medical condition, then a couple or even 10 or 15 extra pounds is not going to hurt you. You are young and still growing.
2007-12-03 07:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey - I don't want to alarm you but I think this is pretty much a form of child abuse. Please talk to someone at your school or elsewhere in your family, or perhaps a friends parents and explain what is going on. This is not right and is not OK. I send you big hugs, and if they won't get you Xmas presents based on your weight, your parents need some serious help.
2007-12-04 07:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any other adults to speak with about this, like a doctor, teacher, counselor or church leader? You may need to get some perspective from someone else. If you're not overweight, your parents may have some issues. If you are overweight, your parents may be trying to save you from obesity but don't know how.
See if you can speak with an adult that you trust about this issue.
2007-12-03 08:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are going through that!!
At 14 or any age unless you are SEVERELY over weight your parents shouldnt do that girls need to be told they are beautifull just the way they are which I am sure you are!!!
Ask them if you could go see a dr and see what the dr thinks I think this is really unfair of them to do this to you I am sorry!!!
Best wishes to you
2007-12-03 07:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
that's a low blow...what kind of parents do that is beyond me? You know what, just eat healthy, drink lots of water, and try and get 30 minutes of moderate exercise 3-4 times per week. Don't let your parents make you feel bad about yourself, of all people they should make you feel good. I would just ignore them and keep your confidence up by knowing your beautiful...
2007-12-03 07:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by elle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are very weird. GO to the doctor to prove that you are within a healthy weight. I am sure they are in breach of some child protection laws. This is not ok.
2007-12-03 07:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ciara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents supporting you decision and effor to lose weight...good
you parents making you feel bad about your self, and making you lose weight....not good
i agree with the previous answers, talk with someone you trust about this such as a school counselor. i will give them the benefit of a doubt and maybe they have good intentions, but they are definately going about it all wrong, this is not right.
2007-12-03 07:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor about this. Your parents are being unreasonable. Can you also talk to your school counselor or an aunt/uncle or grandparent? You really need another adult on your side. To threaten you, even if they are kidding, is cruel. Good luck, honey!
2007-12-03 07:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by sundsqk321@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋