i been seeing this guy for a couple months now.
i have trust issues due to a couple of very bad past relationships.
things seem to be going well.
its his birthday this wkend and we planned to go out together, but he has just text me saying that his mates want to have a long wkend for his birthday prob going into town getting rat assed lol
he said is that ok and that we can celebrate it during wk.
but im peed of cos he planned with me first and now he has cancelled for his mates
so i just text ok
and that was it
ive not recieved a reply of him so i text him and asked him if he was going out both fri and sat night and still no reply from him!!
what does this mean?
2007-12-03 07:00:18 · 19 answers · asked by bellebrighton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you're not paranoid, this means he's a total jerk and doesn't care about you at all.
2007-12-03 07:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lollipops 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think he's a bit of an idiot not wanting to spend ANY of it with you, I mean if he wants to go out with his friends at night, then why can't you guys spend the morning/lunch/afternoon together? Or the other day of the weekend (ie if his birthday is on Saturday you guys spend Sunday together or vice versa). There's 24 hours in a day and double that in the whole weekend! He can't be spending that WHOLE time in town getting smashed with his friends... Why do you have to wait until past the weekend and sometime during the week?
He's putting you on the back burner no matter how you spin it hun.
Something is fishy in my opinion. Even if he's not cheating and he's legitimately doing what he says he's doing it's obvious you are not his top priority. He brushed off you and your plans to be with some mates...
2007-12-03 15:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he hasn't gotten the messages yet. U R flippin out 2 quickly give him a chance to reply. I don't think if he is staying local that he can't find some time for you over a whole weekend. You both need to stop texting and start talking. When you talk to someone even over the phone you can tell a lot about what they are thinking. Talk to him.
2007-12-03 15:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by looking4answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you are mad because he wants to have some fun with the boys. Its a lot easier for him to get out of plans with you than it is to get out of plans with his boys. Your response, short and concise saying "ok" dosn't come off as an ok to a guy. What did your really mean when you said "ok". You should express yourself and tell him why you are upset. Don't keep it in, it will only make it worse later. Just know he will get a lot more crap from his boys than from you.
2007-12-03 15:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joe S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try real communication. Like, call him and talk to him. Tell him you're upset that he's cancelled on you. You find it rude, disrespectful, and immature. If he insists on sticking to it, tell him he's got to make it up to you.
If you just hold it in, pretending you're ok with it and steaming about it inside, then you'll get bitter and resentful towards him for doing things he didn't know were wrong.
2007-12-03 15:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM IF HE CHOSE TO BE WITH SOME ONE ELSE B4YOU THATS YOUR ANSWER THERE.IF YOU STAY WITH HIM HES ALWAYS GONNA PUT YOU LAST OF ALL JUST THAT SIMPLE OK IS A BIG ISSUE.BELIEVE ME SAMETHING HERE IT ONLY GETS WORSE SPECIALLY BECAUSE YOU ALREADY HAD PLANS WITH HIM THAT REALLY SUCKS .IF YOU DONT WANT TO BRAKE UP WITH HIM TEACH HIM A LESSON DO THE SAME THING TO HIM SO HE FEELS DUMB.DID IT EVER COME TO MIND THAT HE MIGHT BE SEEING SOME ONE ELSE?BASICALLY HIS REAL PARTY CELEBRATION IS ON HIS B DAY NOT DURING THE WEEK LIKE HE TOLD YOU.IF YOU WOULD OF SAID NO WOULD HE STILL HAVE GONE OR ACTUALLY LISTENED TO YOU?I THINK HE WOULD OF STARTED UP SOMETHING WITH YOU TO MAKE YOU SAY SOMETHING THEN HE WOULD OF GOT MAD AT YOU FOR SAYING IT THEN HE STILL WOULD OF GONE OUT .AFTER HE HAD HIS FUN WEEKEND WITH WHO KNOWS WHO HE WILL SAY SORRY YOU WILL BE HAPPY AND HE STILL GETS TO CELEBRATE AGAIN WITH YOU.HE WILL GET WHAT HE WANTS .THIS WILL BECOME A HABBIT LEVE HIM DUE TO THE REASON OF PUTTING OTHERS AHEAD OF YOU.
2007-12-03 15:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by MGV4 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you had trouble picking trustworthy guys in the past then it's more that likely you still are picking losers. This guy sounds like a douche bag. If he made plans with you he should stick to them. Paranoia may be your best option.
2007-12-03 15:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by kent_b_kawt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he planned with you first, cancels to be with the guys,
and if he does not reply to your taxt message he must
not think very much of you.
any guy that would cancel his birthday plans with his
girlfriend, and go out with the guys instead and
does not return your messages sounds like a jerk.
drop him and find a good man.
2007-12-03 15:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sucks that he canceled on you. I would save that conversation for after his birthday though. Sit down with him and say; "no more planning ahead if you are gonna pull what you just pulled with me" but honestly I guess...it's his birthday...so really he can do what he wants...but I would sit him down and tell him that.
Don't talk to him until he comes back. No texting. No nothing. I know it's hard but just leave him be for the weekend. You can have the talk when he gets back.
2007-12-03 15:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nae 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it is a matter of a trust issue sometimes you just need to put those things behind you. And remeber your bf could be doing something at this moment, i dont think he means not to respond. Just be patient and maybe he will respond back.
Good luck!
2007-12-03 15:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Justean♥ luv's ya! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats not being paranoid you know, If he cared about you he would have phoned you and told you over the phone, maybe invited you with, but no he's been a jerk so dump him and move on.
2007-12-03 15:04:12 · answer #11 · answered by Blade 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋