It seems like he is chaeting and i asked him to prove to me that he is not cheating and all he can say is,"trust me i am not cheating" i cant take it anymore he was living at his parents home and now he has left for over a month and staying in the area where is supposedly ex-girlfriend live.He says he is not living with her yet he can not take me there and prove that he is staying at his friend's house.I told him i was uncomfortable with him staying in the area where she is because she is determine to get him back and that he should return home,and he has refuse to do as i asked so i am leaving him.
2007-12-03 06:57:49 · 16 answers · asked by Evita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And how does a man "prove he's not cheating"? Find the girl in question and stand by her for hours without showing her affection? Or does he tell you he likes you and not her, and always come to see you? I would say he may be honest. Either way, no man would ever take you to his ex-girlfriend's house whether he loves you or not.
I guess since you can't trust him you should leave him. After all, if he's telling the truth and you can't handle it, it's best to let him move on. But tell him, instead of being a drama queen about it. Be grown up about your choices.
If the other girl is "determined to get him back" and you act like this, you're just handing her the goods. It's supposed to be his decision and you're making it way too easy. It sounds like you really don't want him now anyway.
I hope you don't pull the drama card on the next guy either or you'll lose him too.
2007-12-03 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not trust him ... for whatever reason ... you do not need to be with him.
The relationship is not going to go anywhere because there is no trust there. The fact that you need proof that he is not cheating speaks mountains! There is a reason you are so distrusting of him and I doubt it's because you are so insecure.
Trust your instinct and leave. But I think you should at least tell him it's over.
2007-12-03 07:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoah, whoah, whoah. if the man says he's not cheating and you've not seen it with your eyes do what good spouses/ gf's do, and give him the benefit of the doubt. Honestly, how does one prove they are not cheating?
HOWEVER, the part about not going to his house in over a month appears pretty suspect to me. i couldnt picture not having a girl friend i was in love with over at my spot ever unless it was my parents house (well besides for eating dinner/ family get togethers lol) but since he took you there the mans probly playin you so you should lay down the pimp hand and give him the ultimatum one more time, this time to his face; You are going to take me to your/ friend's house, or im going to let you go and keep it moving
2007-12-03 07:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Chad M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if you have a gut feeling about him cheating like that then your most likley right and your doing the right thing. it's no fun to be with someone you cant trust you need trust to make any relationship work with out its nothing really.
2007-12-03 07:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya, you should leave and THEN some..that is BS in all its glory, it is either he is cheating or he just does not care anough for you t obe WITH you..either way..don't give him any slack, dont even answer his calls and that will probably be the best revenge for what he is/has/ put you through..
2007-12-03 07:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What r u waiting 4? GO pack and leave! It sound to fish 4 me.. Get out now, he is cheating so go!
2007-12-03 07:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by just me! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good to hear you woke up and started smelling the roses
2007-12-03 07:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by HENRY H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should leave, but you should also tell him why you are leaving him! Do not just leave without saying anything. That is just cowardly.
2007-12-03 07:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by expert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good idea. Sounds kinda suspicious to me.
2007-12-03 07:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD JOB! leave him. If he really cared about you he would do anything to make you happy. He sounds like a jerk. so yes good choice
2007-12-03 07:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋