In today's society should parents spank their kids?

Question

When is it neccessary to spank or (whoop as we call it in the hood). See, where I'm from alot of parents will discipline their children with whoopings, verbal punishments and spankings. But, to be honest I rarely ever see caucasians or some other races doing it. Now, I don't believe in child abuse but I do believe that you can spank your child every now and than if the punishments are not helping at all. There is line between beating and spanking. When I was as a child my siblings and myself received spankings and we all turned out to be very responsible, respectable adults. If your child was out of control what would you do? Again, this is just a hypothetical question to see how people respond. Gimme some feedback. holla

Answer 1

i'm 16 years old and was spanked as a child (my mom still tells me that i'm not too old). i was 12 the last spanking (haven't gotten in trouble since then except for when i didn't pay my sister back $200 and i lost all electronic privileges for about 3 mo. - till i paid her back). my mom used a wooden spoon, a leather strap (and yes i had welts when she was done). i also had to write 1,000 times "I will not....." and had extra chores, etc. but i do NOT consider it abuse. i deserved every single one of them (except for one when my bro got me in trouble when i didn't do anything, but he apologized and so did my mom). i knew my parents loved me, we cuddled all the time, they told me they loved me every chance they got, and i grew up happy and healthy. now, i'm 16, straight A COLLEGE STUDENT with a 4.48 GPA. not on drugs, never had alcohol. never had sex, never had a boyfriend, haven't had my first kiss. nor do i want one. i don't need a boyfriend. they just add pressure. i just recently got my first cell-phone and I pay for it. I appreciate how my parents raised me. i'm allowed to go out with my friends when i want (just as long as i let them know who, what, when, where, and why. but i have a curfew and make sure i stick with it so i won't lose that privilege), I'm a solid Christian, well-disciplined with a job, and my parents TRUST me. i don't mind them searching my computer or my room, because I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO HIDE. i know they love me and i will raise my kids the same

Answer 2

Ia am hispanic, and my answer is that I would definately give him a spanking. Why? Because it is the best way to get young kids to listen. They have very short attention spans, so the only way to get the message across is to make them feel that what they did is wrong, and there is no other way to do that besides spanking them. Taking away tv or toys wouldn't help because they would find some other way to be entertained. A spanking is also a shorter punishment than grounding or time outs. Spankings should stop when the child is about eleven or twelve years old. That would be the time to take away their computer or tv or cell phone or anything else they are really into, because teenagers' lives basically revolve around those things.

Answer 3

They call them beatings or whoopings in the south. Anyway, when a child runs off and makes you look for them for a while, a 5 minute time out won't work. If throwing a tantrum in a store, drag the child out to the car and smack it. The child will know not to do that again. My brothers and I got spanked at home, but in public it was a slap on the cheek. Both are VERY effective.

Look at Amish, Hutterite, or Mennonite children. You won't see them throw a tantrum in some store. The reason is because they know there's a wooden paddle with their name on it once they get home. They don't have computers, cell phones, or other electronic gadgets, or hardly any of their own toys for that matter, to be taken away. And I would HARDLY consider any of the abovementioned groups "violent" as one poster so ignorantly said spanking teaches violence.

Answer 4

I know from personal experience that you can't physically punish your child if anyone else is there to see, or your child will tell on you. We struggled for many years with an undiagnosed ADD PDD Bipolar child. We used every possible way to punish him (we still are), and found that spanking was not valuable in HIS situation (which is understandable, considering the mental problems).

When they were young, I spanked for safety issues. If they ran out in front of a car. If they were playing with matches. If they really weren't hearing me.

My daughter turned out quite well, and will graduate a prestigious college in a month. She's a moral, upright, fun, sweet kid.

My son is still struggling. He doesn't always follow the rules, and could be a much better student if he were more organized.

TX Mom

Answer 5

In today's society, parents should be doing whatever is best for their kids. They are responsible for their kids in all aspects and that includes discipline.
In TODAY'S society, we should not be judging people and how they discipline their children according to what race they are. You could very well have a white family using the same form of punishment that a black family uses. It doesn't matter what race does what or what you see in the hood.

Also, for some people to say that they don't punish their kids in public(for example: a store) is silly. Some people NEED to punish their kids in public sometimes. They seem to be worried about what other people will say.
They are the parents and need to be strong enough to do what they feel is right for their child. If they feel unsure about what's right, they need to get help....from professionals, not their friends with the bad-as s kids.

Answer 6

Spanking is the conduct of responsible adults in all parts of the world. Believe it or not--only 50% of the American occupation bothers with an injunction law of anti-violence. In a recent news broadcast produced by Yahoo, they reported that "live-in" & "step"-families have the highest rate of incidents. Which, race/ethnicity delivers the highest number of sex-partner turnover/marital dissolutions, are micro-regional results or bonified pursuits from decades past.

For speech communications, the "Our gang" semblance is a good position to believe-in. You know, two kids swapping lines would concern how "my old man really beat the hell out of me lastnight," such assertions as resolution are a good start. More often, realities aren't so innocent nor are they profoundly the same.

I believe it to be unlikely, that in the corporal states, that the principal of the Board of Education has too dedicated, of a parish and faculty, to ascertain liberal results--from that which would be a criminal's coercion.
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Or, maybe I'm just whining.

Answer 7

believe that spanking is a great form of discipline for certain events in life for others it's not so good and there's an age range where it is effective. It should be a parents choice to spank their child and that it shouldn't be against the law. I can say one thing though people are correct in order for it to be effective and for it to work you can't use spankings when you're upset, angry, etc.....
I don't think it is a form of child abuse unless it gets out of hand. I was spanked as a child and it worked well. Of course there are other forms of punishment that work well with each child, you have to remember every child is different just because one punishment works for one child it doesn't necessarily mean it's going to work on another. Also, I would never use a belt on my child. It would be with the hand or a wooden spoon that's it.


People who are anti-spanking like to say it causes other things such as lack of self-confidence, the only way to solve problems is with violence, etc........ From what I've seen if a spanking is done properly no child is going to think that and from experience I was never violent with anyone and never thought it was right to use it against anyone because my dad taught me that hitting someone is wrong and he also taught me how to manage my anger.

Self-Confidence is another story in itself and it has nothing to do with spankings even if the anti spanking group sites studies from surverys done by children who were spanked and who have low self-confidence it's a correlational study which means you can't deem causation from it.

The studies more then likely didn't take into account other factors that can lead to low confidence in a child. I can list tons of reason why a child would lack confidence in themselves such as being made fun of in school, being teased, harassed, negative thoughts that are put in their head from those people who are teasing them, etc........ In order for a child to really boost confidence in themselves is to change their thinking.

I keep on seeing answers on here that are quite ridiculous. Well if you spank your child it teaches them that in order to get a point across you have to do it by hitting another person. I find that very ignorant if a parent is doing there job there's not going to be any problem with the child having that issue in fact more then likely you see the children who do hit have never been disciplined in their life. Again in order for any effective punishment from spanking, grounding, timeouts, etc.....Communication is the key in all discipline from spanking, grounding, timeouts, etc..........
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Answer 8

Every child is different, my daughter responds well to time out, she is very sensitive and emotional, so I will keep doing timeouts as long as they work. My son on the other hand loves time out, he does not care. He does get a spanking if it is deserved. My children respect other people and they are polite because they know there is alot to lose if they do not, so I do not have to go that far with them very often.

Answer 9

My parents spanked me and I spank if nothing else works and I am Caucasian.If the child does something bad enough spanking is OK.if my children scare me or do something dangerous I spank.Hope that helps.

Answer 10

when they misbehave after they have been given a warning, I'm going to be a spanker and make sure my kids grow up with a proper respect for the people and world around them. I don't believe in abusing a child and I think that a real spanking (one or two pops on the bottom) embarrasses them more than hurts them and that's why it works.