I've been with my boyfriend for just over a month, and to be blunt, i'm bored! We go to school together (I'm doing A-Levels and he's doing GCSE's) and although i like him in school, i don't like him out of school, i don't like his clothes, the way he does his hair (the list goes on) and although i like him, i'm not over the guy i had an affair with (around september time)
when i kiss my boyfriend, all i think about is the way my ex kissed me and the fact that with my ex there was true passion there and with my bf there just ain't.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-03 06:33:54 · 52 answers · asked by Sarah M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i forgot to mention ... my ex is still into his only 'true love' (the girl before me) and i work with him but atm he's on 'holiday' and has been for a month
2007-12-03 06:45:43 · update #1
oh and my current bf ain't trustworthy, he cheated on me when we went out over summer (with someone who is a lot more like him than i am)
2007-12-03 06:47:19 · update #2
The relationship is going nowhere!
Be fair to this boy and let him down gently!
xx
2007-12-03 06:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mossy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the chemistry is not there you need to end the relationship. Considering so many things about him bother you, it is best to break up with him because is simply not the guy for you. Whatever you do, DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CHANGE HIM. In the long run you will both lose. You will not be any happier if your ex is still on your mind regardless of the clothes he wears or his hairstyle. He will be crushed if he knows you dislike so many things about him and are still thinking of your ex. This matter is beyond "talking things out" so simply tell him he is a wonderful person but you can't be with him because he deserves someone who truly appreciates how awesome he is. As for liking him in school; It sounds like you just want a companion, not a boyfriend. Spread your wings and make new friends and I guarantee that feeling will disappear. END IT BEFORE YOU COMPLICATE YOUR LIFE FURTHER.
P.S.
If he cheated on you before he might be feeling the same way. You both need someone more compatible. As for you ex, only time will heal you. Be strong: do not pursue him as long as he is in a relationship. Meanwhile, you may find someone who is hot, single, actually has things in common with you and is as into you as you are into him.
2007-12-03 06:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by LS6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit comparing the two! Look beyond the clothes and hair and look inside the persons heart. Is he honorable, is he trustworthy, is he fun to be with?
Don't try to push something with the new guy just to try to replace the old one...it backfires and all of you will get hurt.
Cake looks good with icing yes, and may even taste better with icing....but if the icing is made from pure salt, then the cake isn't worth it. Meaning....looks are not everything, but what is inside a person's heart and soul are.
IF you just don't think the new BF is cutting it...then break it off but break it off for the right reasons.
2007-12-03 06:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, what do you want in a relationship, what do you want from a relationship and if it is realalistic. I for one have experienced getting into relationships all for the wrong reasons. This has caused me great pain and painful to others. I now know that people are not toys and we should not play with others emotions. Determine what you want from a relationship and evaluate a person ability to meet your needs as a friend first. Then and only then should you persue an intimate relationship.....It is no fun when a person is missled or when the shoe is on the other foot.
2007-12-03 06:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by brithrill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that this guy isn't the right one for you. While you do have to consider that having an affair may add some flair, and that flair may be why you still think about that ex, if you're unhappy with the way your boyfriend is, you should consider breaking up, escpeciallly if it isn't because of something he can't change.
2007-12-03 06:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to break up with this guy. You don't really like him, everything about him bothers you. How can you like him in school and not like him out? He's the same person! You're being very unfair to your BF, staying with him when you are obviously still emotionally attached to your ex. Your BF deserves a girl who isn't constantly thinking about and comparing him to her ex.
2007-12-03 06:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you answered your own question, no?
"when i kiss my boyfriend, all i think about is the way my ex kissed me and the fact that with my ex there was true passion there and with my bf there just ain't."
You said it so yourself. Indeed, you should break it off.
2007-12-03 06:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Angelita Amante 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It semmes that there is no reson that your with this guy. your staying some were you dont want to be and there is no point to that. If you say there is no pashion y did you go out with him in the frist place....if you really want to know how you fell about him go on a break and that way you can see if you miss him or not and if you dont then tell him its ot working out for you...theres an old saying that gose "we cannot become what we need to be by remaining where we are" i dont know if that makes any sence....but what im trying to say is you cant feel how you want by staying with someone that dosent make you feel that way
2007-12-03 06:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current boyfriend turns you off like a light bulb. Your ex had true passion that when things were good, they were incredible and probably made your legs weak.. As a woman you should never settle for a relationship without passion. Since you know what it is, you know that what I say is true.
2007-12-03 06:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like this guy you should break up with him... on the other hand, if your just bored, you should get him to spice things up, to use a cliche... all heterosexual guys love to take it to the next level, so maybe you need to show your man that you want to push it to the limit. Otherwise, find a guy that you genuinely like... and maybe someone who is on your intelligence level, and has the same personal drive as you...
2007-12-03 06:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jason G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would break up with your current BF and go find your ex. It sounds like your current is really more of a friend anyway.
2007-12-03 06:37:37 · answer #11 · answered by Gretchen K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋