What I mean is, supposing you put all you had into making a relationship work, and you had no reason to believe your partner was unhappy, then suddenly she got up and left.
Then went to another country, asked you to come then asked you not to, then played this game for a long time, eventually telling you she still loves you but will never come back with you.
Then tells you that she slept with someone else, days after telling you that she wanted to come back with you.
I mean I certainly feel I am owed an explanation, especially as she has never displayed this kind of behaviour before, but does she morally owe me an explanation?
2007-12-03 06:29:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all answers so far, I find them kind of comforting.
Mike you made some interesting points.
We did sort out the problem as to why she left on the phone, or at least I thought we did, but then everyday she had a new problem to discuss and it went on, as you say, a mind game.
In the meantime, I lost everything, home etc, as I was planning to go live with her.
It all went wrong, seems like she played all the time. But what i don't understand is how she changed so dramatically in nature, personality, every way possible.
It's inexplicable, unless drugs?
I never wanted to lose her, and she did admit that she was still drunk the morning she left, and regretted leaving, but she has now played me for 3 months.
I am wonderring my self if she ever deserved me.
2007-12-03 08:18:47 · update #1
If she is a decent person,she could have given you an explanation.But,not many people would do so when they want to end a relationship. In my opinion,never expect anyone to explain why they wanted to end it (they will not anyway!)
Based on what you said above,she seemed to be playing a mind game on you.Are you going to take her back though?
If you are NOT,then why do you need an explanation?It doesn't matter why she did it, it happened. if you decided to move on, then let it go, we don't always need an explanation for everything. Live for yourself live for now.
If you still want her, then ask yourself,does she deserve you after what she done to you?Is she good enough for you?
But I suggest you to think twice before making any decision.
Move on with your life, there's lots opportunity ahead.
2007-12-03 06:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by =)) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she does not "owe" you anything. An explanation would be great and maybe if you try talking to her you can get one ... but don't get your hopes up. It does not sound like she is a very moral person ... but who knows! Maybe she is acting out ... only way to find out is to ask!
It sucks to lose someone you cared so much for and worked so hard to keep happy but in the end you have to realize they are gone and you really can do better. It is SO corny I know but from personal experience believe me it's true!!!
2007-12-03 06:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can say, hand on heart, you didn't drive her away, then the least she owes you is an apology and an explanation. If she's left you to have sex with someone else, then a) that absolutely sucks, and b) you deserve better, and you're best off without her.
2007-12-03 06:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what you feel, she can choose to explain, or she can ignore the entire situation. What could an explanation do for you? Everyone sets their own standards of behavior and hers don't conform to yours. That, unfortunately, is life.
It won't change how she treated you, or make her come back to you. It happens all the time, so if this is your first experience with a partner who is a weasel, you have learned a good lesson.
2007-12-03 06:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ya she does owe u an explanation. but some people are cowards when it comes down to doing someone wrong and would rather never see that person again "out of sight out of mind" than to do the right thing and face and admit they are wrong in a situation. sounds like your better off but if it bothers ya find and comfront her and get what u have coming to u!!!! good luck!!
2007-12-03 06:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by :) 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, but to be honest do not beat yourself over an explanition. I gave my best once and just like that he was gone. for many years i made that my unfinished business and I never got an answer. It took me so long to realize a person like him was not worth all of those years of wordering why. the only explanation is people like that are not worth it!!
2007-12-03 06:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by kiara1615 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She went to be with someone else, but you were suppose to be extra security just in case it didn't work out with the other person. Since it did, she decided to tell you the truth. Forget about any explanations, move on with your life.
2007-12-03 06:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a relationship ends and I am not the one to end it, I like to have an explanation. It's common courtesy but it's not required.
2007-12-03 06:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, nobody owes you anything. People are complicated and ruthless. Cold up and forget about her. It's hard I know, but the only way to survive.
2007-12-03 06:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Me apaguem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure she owes you an explaination but that doesn't mean you are going to get one.
2007-12-03 06:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋