I want to make this meeting as comfortable for my father as possible. i do not want him to compromise himself. And I know that he does not approve. He is very dilligent in his position, but he has agreeded to meet him.
Please dont ask me questions about our relationship. This is about my father and helping him. Thank you!!
2007-12-03 06:29:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Umm...Lord Vader. I tried to decipher your "advice". And I did add you to my contacts. Your dialouge and picture togeather sounds like something my brother would say while jumping through the air!!
Edit: My father is not a brute. He is kind...but blunt. He will not make my BF uncomfortable on purpose. But his discomfort may make him short. This is what I seek to avoid.
2007-12-03 06:41:30 · update #1
I do not live in his home. I live on my own. Sorry , I should have made that clear.
2007-12-03 06:58:02 · update #2
Whenever I scan to see the answers of JWs I can tell who they are, because they are so nasty. Why? Why the venom?
2007-12-03 07:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Depending on where your beliefs lie i believe will depend on the outcome of the meeting as the uncomfortableness will arise if and when you have to decide which aspect you believe most.
i personally believe in the JW way and from my experience the most your father would do would be to have a civil conversation using the bible to point to any truths or misconceptions.
2007-12-03 06:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by kriss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I think the meeting will be more uncomfortable for your boyfriend than your father. After all, your boyfriend obviously has no problems with the relationship, or he wouldn't be in it. But your father (Although I don't know him), may do his best to make the man uncomfortable at the least.
2007-12-03 06:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can not help who you love...and unfortunately you can not make everyone happy either. It is a very uncomfortable situation that you are in and i feel for you (i have been in similar situations with my parents and grandparents) but even though your father may be stuck in his ways he obviously loves you and is willing to give your relationship a chance in meeting your boyfriend 'right'.
the only thing you can really do is maybe make it clear to both of them that you love them both every much and need them both in your life and hope that your father will look past his religion as see the man that you are in love with....
2007-12-03 06:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I take it that you are not a Jehovah's Witness. I'm shocked that you're father is an elder, if that's the case. Why would you want to bring shame and reproach on your father and cause more problems by dating (esp. one who is not a witness)?
Well, it's commendable that you're father will even take an interest in your relationship. I'm sure the Witnesses are looking down upon him already. You could make it easier on him by respecting his wishes. He's your father and you're living in his house. I suggest you go by the rules of the house (to maintain peace) or else move out if you choose to rebel and be disrespectful.
You seem to have choosen the latter since you know that your dad will NOT approve of you going out with someone, let alone someone who is not a witness. Maybe it's best you find out why God disapproves of those going out with others who are "not in the Lord".
Added: I'm sorry if my answer came across as a little harsh, however, JW's beliefs are based on principles, not romance. This means that even God gets upset when His laws and principles are not met. (He's a God of justice and of order). I'm just pointing out the fact that "marry in the Lord" would bring dishonour and heartache to the one(s) not abiding by it.
2007-12-03 06:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Let me see if I got this right.
Your boy friend as a jew is ignoring God's law to Moses.
and you are ignoring Paul's counsel to 'marry only in the Lord'
So what makes you think this relationship is going to succeed?
You both are doing what God warns against.
No wonder your father is uncomfortable and concerned about this relationship.
Remember Adam placed his relationship with Eve above his relationship with God, and we all know how well that turned out.
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2007-12-03 07:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by TeeM 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Jews and JW's do believe in the same God Almighty. I don't think there's a problem. Your daddy will be proud to meet your Jewish boyfriend.
P.S. Not a JW, but I don't see a problem.
2007-12-03 09:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if your father can not accept who you choose to have a relationship with, it sounds like it's his problem
2007-12-03 06:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You must care more for your boyfriend than your father.
2007-12-04 03:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
not much you can do darlin', just make the introductions and stand by your fellas side. if things go south just try and roll with it, that's all that can be done
2007-12-03 06:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋