How do you keep yourself happy while single?

Question

I am trying to hard to be happy single but sometimes I feel like I just wanna find the right person even though I know that mentality will fail. I am content being single but I'd like to be more content being single, what do you think?

Answer 1

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During several long periods of being single and dateless, I filled my time by doing something useful to me in the advancement of my eduation and/or career. Heck, one particularly depressing period just after my marriage ended is solely responsible for one of my Master's Degrees!

The point is this. Time is going to pass anyway. You can spend your time pining and looking for someone who may never appear, or you can spend your time working on YOU. When you meet someone (and you will, hard as it may be to believe sometimes) you will be a better person because of the improvements you made to yourself during these single periods.

On top of that, going to school, taking classes, or working at some interesting hobby or part time job, are great places to meet other people. So if your dream has been to get a degree in creative writing, taking courses toward that goal will give you the opportunity to meet other, like-minded people; possibly single ones! And even if you don't meet anyone interesting, you haven't been wasting your time. You've been educating yourself. If you've always had a dream to work in stained glass, you can take classes in that. Again, there's the possibility of meeting someone there with a similar interest, but even if you don't, you've learned something you wanted to know.

No education is ever wasted. Use this time to your advantage and you will be a better and better person (and a better and better catch for that wise and lucky person who realizes how great you are). Good luck!
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Answer 2

well as michael jackson would probably say: JUST BEAT IT, BEAT IT, haha, but honestly

it all depends on where you want your life to go next. do you want to be single forever? do you want to be single temporarily and have some fun? or do you want to date the next person that comes along. If your answer is forever, id say take up an instrument, sport, hobby, or all of the above, particulary one you think would be the hardest to learn, and by all means practise them to michael jackson songs.

however if you do want to date again, and your not a big mj fan/ or one of "beat it" either, you should go test the waters, but only when convenient to you, with the realisation that YOU are content with your life whether single or double, YOU have enough friends, and are not out to meet new ones/ love interests per se, but just carry out your life as normal and whatever happens happens. there will always be women/ men out there, just like there are friends to made, and you can use this time to your benefit- not to be alone per se, but to test the waters, weigh your options and make sure that whoever YOU choose to date eventually is the right person for you and the best person for you, where as settling for the first option that comes to you and being afraid to be single will lead ultimately to unhappy relationships and marriages and so on.

Answer 3

Happiness comes from within yourself. You have to be happy with YOU before you can be happy with somebody else. Don't depend on someone else for your happiness. Only you are responsible for you. Learn to live with yourself first and then search for that Significant Other.

Also, never depend on anybody else to always take care of you--like balancing your checkbook, paying all the bills, etc. Learn what is going on in your life and don't give all your trust to one person unless they earn that trust. But then always have enough money in a separate bank account so that you can leave and support yourself until you can get on your feet if need be! Always be able to be self-sufficient.

Answer 4

Just think about going with the flow. Its not a war to stay single or be not single. People love human contact... that's just the way we are. Only a few odd balls like their own company permanently. we're not made to be alone. Lonely people die younger, get sick more... its proven. People are made to have relationships and be together. Stop fighting a natural thing.

Answer 5

My happiness is not based on whether I have a man in my life. I go to a local bar for Karaoke Night, go to the movies with friends, participate in volunteer activities, whatever I enjoy to make me happy. Having a man in my life is like the icing on the cake.

Answer 6

I know kinda what you mean... i hate being single thou! The thing that works best for me is to just stay busy and keep your mind going. Hang out with friends go out on the weekends to clubs or bars. Just stay busy and stay positive!

Answer 7

Maybe you just think you're happy being single,but you're really not. If you really think you are happy spend your time hanging out with other happy singles.

Answer 8

It's easy to be single and happy. You can hook-up with whoever you want and not make anyone mad. That's how I do it anyways. I kiss people and never call them back. That's how I've learned to be happy.

Answer 9

Good Question - I ask myself this all the time.

It's natural to want to be with someone. I say focus on the things that are going well. Don't be afraid to date or meet new people.

And stay away from people (even if they are your friends) who bring you down. :o)

Answer 10

I would be truthful and honest with myself and ask "What do I really, really want? What would it take to make me happy? If I could have anything in the whole wide world, what would it be.....(within reason)?" Then, one by one, get rid of the obstacles and pursue what you want, most of all.