but i went to thailand to meet her parents...her parents live in Patong a tourist area full of prostitutes...and to tell u the truth i hated the experience.....lots of prostitutes and i think it cheapened my image of thai girls.......i know its ridiculus cause 99% are normal girls.....but i just hated the fact that people thought maybe that she was a prostitute cause she was with a foreign guy. The main thing is i would hate for somebody here in Ireland to see me with this girl and cause they only went to these red light areas...they would think she is a prostitute......it eats away at me that thought......im a good looking guy maybe i dont need that stress.....what u guys think of the situation???????????..P.S i love the thai girl.....( its just a silly insercurity of mine i know..but im curious what people think) thanks
2007-12-03 06:17:05 · 19 answers · asked by Tyler Durden 1 in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Thailand
You don't really love her if you care what other ppl might think about YOU.
2007-12-03 06:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by Erdnusslöckchen 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance is bliss as the saying goes. Yes, there are two ideas of what Thailand is. The prostitutes and gogo bars and Elephants and Temples. What can you do but, show your friends the true Thailand. It's unfortunate that her parents live in Patpong area. If they own the house or building they live in, it will be worth alot of money since it is in the middle of Bangkok.
What people think is what people think. You cannot change that unless you educate them. It's unfortunate that your friend lives in Patpong. it's a reality that you cannot change unless you move them. Patpong, Nana and Soi Cowboy make up less than 1 percent of Bangkok, if you include the beer bars it is still less than 1 percent of Bangkok. The areas are easily bypassed by the average tourist. Prostitution is a way of life in Bangkok, it's unfortunate. I live in the Los Angeles area, I used to see it when I visited certain areas. The women are from similar backgrounds, poor, uneducated, down on their luck. AIDS is scary enough to keep you away and most others. But, it is still around.
You being Irish should understand differences better than anyone. Irish Catholic or Irish Protestant? Can you tell by their skin, their face, the way they walk. No, just by where they work and live, maybe, it is the prejudice or Pre-judgment that we unfortunately live by. Our want to label everything. Well, if you could stop labeling by association and say this is Nok she lives in Bangkok. You don't have to say Patpong and if you do, you tell your friend unfortunately her family lives in the Patpong area of town which at night is not the best part of town.
The question comes down to do you love her? Or are you turned off by where she lives? If you love her and then the other part disappears. If you cannot get past where she lives. Well, then the relationship is sunk.
2007-12-03 15:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm American but lived in Patong for several years.
It is a very difficult town to wrap your mind around (especially as a farang girl!) and a lot of people do have misconception of some ladies. But most people know the truth and there are a lot of really nice people with good families from Patong.
Once I got used to the seediness, I learned to overlook a lot of the red light district stuff and find the good. I made good friends and was treated with so much genuine hospitality in that town and hope that you will have more of the same there in the future.
I even did have a few friends who were prostitutes and they are not bad people in most cases, just in a bad situation.
Please stay with your girl if you love her so much, and just work on accepting that some places are a little "out there".
Should you continue on with her, there are a large handful of Irish expats in town, all very friendly, you may want to seek out.
If you care so much, she must be lovely, and doesn't deserve to be discounted for being from Patong.
Good luck both of you!!
2007-12-03 15:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being stupid and narrow minded..Does it matter ..I mean does it really matter..what others think..You think the girl you have been dating is any the less what you liked about her just because of the area she was unfortunate to be brought up in..cobblers..and also if you were her wouldn't you want to get out of the area ..it is not always the case that people in an area is always like all the others..In England where I am from there are people who think all Irish people are thick and stupid..I have even had a fight over this at one time ,putting the other bloke right about putting people in one group because of what he thinks of a minority..If I was to think the way you are thinking about this girl ..I would never have had the fight and agreed with him and bought him a drink..NOT ALL IRISH PEOPLE ARE STUPID..and NOT ALL THAI GIRLS ARE PROSTITUTES>>
2007-12-03 14:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by silver44fox 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Is she a hooker? If she is not, what have you to worry about?
Many westerners already have a mindset that any girls from Thailand is a hooker. But there are millions of them and the sex workers form a very small percentage. The area she lived in may be unsavory, but then again, your going out with her does not equate to you engaging in the whole sex industry yourself.
If she is of good character and you know her well, what has the surrounding got to do with your personal relationship with her?
Anyway, if you are soo hung up on such thought, why persist any further and get yourself a girl from your own country.
2007-12-03 22:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by peanutz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ohh, is the first time tht I read this about a man here in internet, two days ago, was a man who wanted marry with a girl just for money.....sorry, is not good, I suggest look for other person, she can be the more beauty but the level around her will be ever the same. Marry with a woman of different culture or without money, but never with a woman with different education.
2007-12-04 12:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Graham 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your own race if you are bothered with what people think. Your insecurity will be the wedge between you and the Thai girl. I feel sorry for her because she has found someone without a spine. You love her? I don't think you know what love is..
2007-12-04 14:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by AQUALUNG 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is your insecurity.
You have a choice - maybe if it's really going to eat away at you then you should end the relationship because it's not fair on her and neither of you will be happy.
Or perhaps you love and respect her enough to get over it.
2007-12-03 17:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by bec 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you love her then what other people think shuldnt matter. iv been to thiland many times and yes there are places were there is a lot of prostitution. However thiland is huge and not evryone there is a prostitute and people who think this are just ignorent to that fact. i think that it dosnt matter were she comes from if u love her than thats all u need.
2007-12-03 16:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
V MODEST. "I'M A GOOD LOOKING GUY"
Sheesh.
Be youself, and as long as you love eachother it doesnt matter what people think. If you really love her, you will do anything about her, and get this image out of your head. Maybe it seems weird in Thailand that your were with her?
2007-12-03 14:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Zorro. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup i do understand the pressure you're going through.
coz i used to be with a western guy. i know the feeling when ppl look at you two. I used to feel uncomfortable....but then i realize those ppl don't matter in my relationship. they're just some ppl living on the same planet who just walk pass you by...they see you then they forget about you. coz you are nobody to them. and they are to you. so why care about what they think?
you know your girl, you know she's good and the most important thing, you love her.....so let that silly pressure go.
i know it will take some time to get used to. but trust me, if you really love her you'll get thru it
good luck with your love
2007-12-04 08:59:44 · answer #11 · answered by Dandelion 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋