Shouldn't women leave the toilet seat up, instead of telling men they should leave it down?

Question

I'm always hearing from women that men should leave the toilet seat down, but to me, it would make more sense if women (and men) would leave the toilet seat up. If you leave the toilet seat up, then it's less likely that you'll have to clean up someone elses urine on the toilet seat before you use it, (which I really hate doing). Some public toilets are actually spring loaded where they are always in the up position, and are only down when there is weight on the seat. What do you think?

O.K. - So at home, it makes sense to leave the seat cover down so that water particle from flushing don't get as airborn and maybe contaminate someone's toothbrush, but as far as public restrooms go, I think the seats should be left up cause I hate cleaning up after others before I use the toilet. Do you agree?

Answer 1

Women in public restrooms should leave it up, since they have the tendency to pee all over it and not wipe it off like a bunch of gross pigs. It's amazing how many attractive, and well to do women do this. You'd think it would be just skanky kids, but it's not.

Personally as long as there is not piss on it, I don't care what you with the toilet seat.
If everyone could just manage to stop pissing on the seats, or it least wipe them off if you're not coordinated enough to make it all inside, you'd never need a debate like this.

Answer 2

Not in this house. We have a toddler. The seat is not only down, but the lid is LOCKED until a grown-up needs to use the toilet!

Besides keeping toddler-toys from taking a bath in toilet water, having the seat and lid down keeps other accidents from happening, like accidently knocking jewelry or toothbrushes off of our incredibly small counter into the toilet when 3 people are trying to use the same sink and mirror to get ready in the mornings.

Edit to add: Public toilets. Don't care one way or the other, as I was taught as a child to "hover" over the toilet with the lid up so as not to touch anything unclean and not leave any sprinkles. I do not sit on public toilet seats. They're just... nasty.

Answer 3

I think you need to seek a couple's counseling to resolve the problems within your relationship, instead of asking for re-affirmations here. (a) To put the toilet seat up before urinating is reasonable. But to ask to leave the toilet seat down afterwards is biased and sexist because he has just as much of a right as you. (b) Arguing about numbers is just silly and arbitrary. It would depend on the couple. As a couple, you guys should do things together. Why else would you be in a relationship period? in that case, the number of times of going out does not matter. (c) Tell him what you just said. Sounds reasonable. He would understand and respect that. (d) Reveal to him how it would be not a good idea. Bring forth a reasonable explanation. Men have brains too so if it's reasonable then we would agree and listen. (e) That's just personal preference. You may try to tame him but it's bordering controlling here. Tell him your side of the story in a reasonable explanation but keep in mind that he's a person, a human being, so both of you should respect each other's way of life, and not make it one-sided. It may seem controlling to others only if you don't explain yourself in a reasonable fashion. Most of the time, the perceived controllers just give out commands or act like they're the mothers in the house, when both sides are grown adults, so show respect. EDIT: I didn't say the above is controlling. I didn't say you are controlling. I said the last one may be seen as one. I am reasonable in suggesting you to explain to him, no? Do you see how you overlook what I've said and just believe in your preconceived emotionally charged irrational notion? Is it wrong to say you are reinforcing the stereotype of women being irrational by your responses here? You sure exaggerated me as one of 2 only guys who said the above is controlling which is not what I've said.

Answer 4

Well, the reason I put it down, & ask my son to, is because when the water washes around the bowl, some of it becomes airborne. Do you *really* want what you just did in the potty airborne?????? I don't, & I put it down before flushing & always put my toothbrush in a unit that has a hood, & cleans it, & I clean it everytime & go in there! It is just a tap on the top to start it. Check the underside of the lid, after you flush, use the blue water to make it show up better. If you see little drops of blue, or wet, close the lid before you flush! It helps stop dirty air in bathrooms!
Besides, some of the time you guys need to sit too...why can't you be polite, & cleaner at the same time?

Answer 5

Public toilet seats should be spring loaded because the whole public restroom is nasty to begin with, I wouldn't touch one. An in home bathroom has other things in there. Toothbrushes, hair brushes and things. If you leave the toilet seat up when you flush it and the water swirls it throws germs and fecal matter and tiny particles of whatever else was in the toilet into the air. It's not a matter of what is easier for who, it's a hygiene thing. Unless of course you like using a toothbrush that has a nice coating of urine and turd..............................................................................In public the restrooms will likely be segregated by male and female anyhow. In my opinion it should probably be put down for the same reasons as in the home but then again don't do it because it's a nasty public restroom. The rest of the public are generally horrifyingly disgusting wild beasts and I lack concern for their hygiene and don't put the seat down because at that point I'm sure it's far too filthy to warrant my contracting HBV from touching it put it down.

Answer 6

The person who is going to use the toilet should put the toilet seat in the appropriate position in which they need it. If they arrive at the toilet and the seat's up, but they need it down, they should lower it and vice versa. It should not be left solely up to the man. Women are always complaining about equality, so they should share equal toilet seat lifting / lowering duties. This toilet seat debate is an example of how they want equality but only when it's convenient for them.

Answer 7

It is just polite to put the seat, and lid, down. It's not a matter of gender wars. If you are a guest somewhere- leaving the seat up is just rude.
There have been really good reasons posted, as well, that make leaving the seat and lid down a good idea.
And besides. Leaving the seat up is not going to prevent urine from getting all over the place...I'm not sure where that theory comes from, but it doesn't hold.

Answer 8

This started out as a joke in a standup routine back in the 80's, then became a "rant and rave" topic for gender bashing.


The one hand tells us, "put it down and avoid the whining".
The other hand tells us, "let them put it down themselves if they want it down. Who knows if they have to vomit, pee or whatever?

This is the "rule of thumb" in society, though....
When finished, lower the seat. If you are at someone's home, you might lower both the lid and the seat as a courtesy, not as an order! No single gender rules the world...it is just a courtesy.

But, if I find it down and need it up, I know just what to do.
Life is much too short to argue about a toilet seat....don't you agree?

Answer 9

That is not an issue in our house. I am the only female in a house full of males (husband and 2 sons) and it's just as easy for me to lower the seat as it is for them to raise it. As far as having to touch the seat and picking up germs that's what soap and water are for.

Answer 10

Its called being a gentleman! And as others said, things fall in the toilet, so why not avoid it and close it?? Plus if anything like a rat,snake etc came in, they would have a difficult time or at least make noise getting out.