Just wondering if I as the host or even the person who brings the wine, should be expected to open and drink the wine thats in question? Setting aside the obvious doesnt go with the meal part (red/meat, white/fish ext.).
2007-12-03 05:57:26 · 10 answers · asked by Patrick N 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's funny, I was just reading about this. What was said was no, you should not have to. If someone brought a tablecloth would that have to be the tablecloth used? What is also important to remember is that the host of a party is very busy. They need to make sure all the guests are comfortable, have drinks, take coats, finish up food that's cooking, etc. They have put a lot of thought into what to serve and what to have to drink with it. I have drinks set that I planned for ahead of time, I don't plan for a guest to arrive with the wine in less I already arranged for them to bring it. What is important is that they think you for the gift, and maybe send a nice note later about how much they enjoyed the gift.
On a side note, something to think about... The host has lots of things they are trying to do at a party, so bringing them flowers that have to be cut and put into water can be a pain for them. They have to drop what they're doing, find a vase, then spend time they don't have getting the flowers taken care of. A better gift is wine or flowers that can just be set on a table without fuss.
2007-12-03 06:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Satine777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no...hosted dinners are generally already planned out. Any edible or drinkable should be used at the convenience of the person receiving it, as it is a gift, meaning the receiver can do anything they want with it. If someone had brought you fresh vegetables from their home garden instead, you could hardly be expected to chop them up and prepare them to be served with the dinner already in progress.
You can drink or save the wine as you wish.
2007-12-03 14:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Vangorn2000 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its nice if you do but the guest should not feel offended if you dont.
I usually do open the bottle my friends bring because people generally bring wine to dinner parties so they can share it with their hosts, at least that is why I bring wine when I am invited.
If you already have bottles opened then do not worry about it.
2007-12-03 14:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not obligated to open the wine right there and have it with dinner. You are only obligated to say "thank you". I usually try to use the wine that my guests bring but that's how I operate and I certainly don't expect anyone else to do the same.
2007-12-03 14:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Susan G 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed feelings about the standardized etiquette for this situation. The proper etiquette is to leave the decision up to the host/hostess on whether to open the "gift" of wine.
Since it has only happened to once, I wondered why the host refused to open my bottle of wine. It is actually their call on to "cork, or not to cork", so I couldn't say anything to him.
When we bring a gift to a host, it is theirs to use when they choose.It is a gift to them for having us over to their home.
If a host asks you to BYOB, then it can be opened by you as soon as you are ready. Be careful for that leech that doesn't bring anything, but will sip from everyone else's reserve to avoid spending $5-10 on thier own.
If you really want to open your gift and you think that they may have forgotten, you might casually ask, "Would you like me to open the wine now"?
Cheers
2007-12-03 14:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to etiqutte mavens Judith Martin and Emily Post, a host is not required to use the wine that a guest brings that evening.
2007-12-03 14:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think sofia gave a lovely answer ((( but she changed it from her original answer so i dont like it any more ))))
its always a good idea to offer what a guest brought as a hostess gift if a food/drink item
they give you some home made cookies put them out with coffee
you are given a box of chocolate
display them in a pretty dish offer them to a few people then place the dish on a side table
flowers .....put in a vase and you can announce look how pretty i know just the place for these
its nice to show your appreciation by using what is given to you when the giver is there
edited to add
sofia you changed your answer with out noting you did?! sigh....
2007-12-03 14:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by darcymc 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's not necessary to do so.
If you'd like to express your thanks you could say something along the lines of: "Oh ____ (wine)! This goes so well with ____. I'll have to make it soon and have you over so you can see how well the two go together!"
2007-12-03 14:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by sofia 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, its a gift for you!
2007-12-03 14:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by Wounded Duck 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, not at all.
2007-12-03 17:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋