I know it is haram..to use birth controls.
But for someone like me who has 4 small children under 8 and works at the same time. It is veryyy hard to take care of the children with school, homework the little ones at home and everything, not to mention trying to raise them islamically and paying the high fees for islamic school.
Our problem is not financially as my husband and I both have good jobs Alhamdullillah but its rasing the kids, thats the hard part.
So we have decided to put it on hold for now...no more kids untill these four lil ones go to school InshaAllaah...for people with similar situations is that a sin?
I have asked an imam on a website and he said it should be fine. Allaah knows best.
what do you guys think?
I cant have the 11 kids my mom had. I'm not as strong as she was plus the environment in which she raised us was totally different and more peacefull.
2007-12-03 05:51:21 · 6 answers · asked by Islam4Life 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
There is nothing in Islam that prohibits Birth control so long as it is done consensually for valid reasons such as the following: putting off pregnancy until such time when the spouses are in a better position to shoulder the responsibilities of parenting, to allow for space between pregnancies in order to provide proper nurturing and care to existing children, et cetera.
Birth control is, however, forbidden or undesirable when it is resorted to as a permanent measure to prevent conception altogether; likewise, it is forbidden if resorted to for fear of poverty. Allah says, “Don’t kill your children for fear of poverty; it is We who provide sustenance for them and you; verily killing them is a most heinous crime!” (Al-Isra’: 31). After reflecting on this verse, scholars have concluded that practicing birth control for fear of poverty is unlawful since it implies weakness of faith and trust in Allah as the Provider and Sustainer of all beings.”
2007-12-03 06:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kimo 4 · 10⤊ 0⤋
The world we live in is definitely different from that of my own parents. I am 48 and American. When I was a child, just about everyone had large families and the moms could stay home and watch their children while the dads worked.
When I had my daughter 19 years ago, I was a Christian at the time, but I no longer am. My husband and I had to attend classes to have our daughter baptised as a Christian. During our discussion with the priest, he noticed that we had been married already for 5 years and that this was our first child. He blatently asked if I had trouble conceiving. I told him, no, that I was previously using birth control. The priest then insisted that we were bad Christians because it is God's will for us to procreate and the only reason to have sex.
Needless to say, I responded asking the priest if God would be willing to help me financially take care for an endless amount of children that I could not afford otherwise?
This is one of the many reasons why I am no longer a Christian. Having children is the choice of the man and woman involved. Not everyone even wants children and that should be personal choice as well.
You obviously care very much about your family and about abiding by the Islamic rules. I truly hope that you do not feel pressured to have more children if you don't feel comfortable doing that.
Peace to you and all your family!
2007-12-03 06:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Vera C 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
:)
I know thats a problem... having birth control pills for sometime, and then cont. having children, I mean that should be allowed because your intention is to look after your children in a much better way, you are trying to make them better human being and good muslims, but if the MUFTI has something else to say about this, then I think we better follow what he is saying using our common sense too, because then if God forbid Mufti has said something wrong, he will be held responsible, and we shall use our brain.
:)~!
KIMO has given the best answer, covered everything !
2007-12-03 06:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Kimo is right in what he said.
My husband and I have no children and we've been married for a few years now. We asked Imaams about this just to make sure, and they said it's not sinful.
2007-12-03 07:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
alsalam alaykum warahmat Allah sister in Islam
mashallah kimo got it all
may Allah Always Guide Him In Everything He does
2007-12-03 07:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing saying birth control.. There are no hadiths or anything which says you can not do family planning..
2007-12-03 08:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋