i dont like my parents at all, my father is crazy he hits me just for saying something silly and my mother is always putting me down, if i dont give her money she says i am the worst daughter ever, but does who give her money are the best children of hers. im 24 with 3 childrens and i am single i work to give my children what i can, she says if i dont give her money she will throw me out the house. i dilike them both, i feel awful since one of the ten comandment is honor your parents how am i supposed to follow this when i dislike them so much?
2007-12-03 05:43:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i pay rent, only i buy food, i do everything but is never enough.
2007-12-03 05:58:30 · update #1
ooo girl ... I know exactly how you feel ...
I was not raised in a Christian home at all. I was raised by a mom who beat me and a father who was never there. The only Bible verse my mom knew was "honor your parents!" and she would yell it at me all the time while she was beating me. And she only used it against me BECAUSE I was a Christian and she hated my church.
Look at what the Word says:
Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3 “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
The thing is that it is the parents' responsibility before God to bring their children up in the training of the Lord. In other words, your physical parents are supposed to also be your 'spiritual' parents and role models.
But that is seldom ever the case. Or it wasn't in mine, anyway.
Now you are an adult and responsible for your own spiritual journey, though.
Here's the deal:
1. Your dad hitting you is abuse.
2. I know it is hard, but you need to have your own home with your children. If you do live with your parents then you certainly do need to contribute financially. They are only two people, while you and your children are four.
3. Don't let the devil make you feel condemned about this.
4. Fill your mind with thoughts of how good your parents have been to you by taking you and your three children into their home and supporting you. If you think and focus on the good then you have to be grateful and that doesn't leave much room for dark thoughts.
5. Teach your own children to honor you as you bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. Be their example because they will copy you. Let them be proud of you as their mom.
God bless you!
2007-12-03 05:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is yet another way religion harms society. Honoring your parents is generally a good thing to do, since they put so many resources into raising you. However, such blanket statements never fit every situation. Parents are people, too, and as such, they make some bad mistakes sometimes and hold bad views. Some parents are horrible and don't deserve respect at all, though this doesn't seem like the situation in your case. And for your own relationships, you should probably listen to your parents, only because they have more experience than you do in these matters and can offer some good advice. However, it is your relationship, so any ultimate decisions in these matters are yours. You know your partner and yourself much better than I do, and even much more than your parents do. How much of your parent's advice you take is up to you. Also remember that parents are very protective, and nobody is really going to be good enough for their daughter. So, realize their biases and make up your own mind. Prayer is a waste of time.
2016-04-07 05:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 24 with 3 children and you live at home? I hope you are giving your parents money. At the very least, you should be paying them rent. Do you have your parents babysit your kids? Do you eat their food or do you buy your own?
And don't give me a sob story. I had 3 kids by the time I was 25 and I helped put my husband through school. Lot's of women are able to be independant single moms.
2007-12-03 05:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by gumby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 24 and you still live w/ your parents with 3 kids?
Get out of that house and get a place of your own. Your mum is providing for you and probably wants you to appreciate what she's doing. She is asking for money because maybe she is struggling a bit. If you pay rent, maybe she needs a hand with rent and that's why she's asking you. Even things out a bit and always forgive your Parents. There's an answer to everything..so to speak
2007-12-03 06:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by †Religious Girl .x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone. My parents suck too. They have always been very uptight chritians who forced religion down my throat, and abused us physically and mentally, and still do, and I am 30, with a family of my own (wife and 3 boys). The best thing you can do is ignore them, and stop giving your mom money. If she needs it so bad, then she should go get a job. Try and stay away from them as much as possible.
2007-12-03 05:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Zaya the Slaya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It also says, "Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, lest they become discouraged". I don't know where that is in the Bible, it's in there somewhere. Not that it matters what the Bible says anyway, nobody is automatically entitled to respect. Respect has to be earned, and it can be lost. Just because one of them inseminated the other and they raised you does not give them the right to mistreat you.
Don't let a book run your life. Don't let your parents run your life. You have to run your own life. You're not a child anymore, you are a parent and your children are depending on you.
If you're working, move out. I'd rather live in a dump with my kids than let my kids see me get treated like crap. I know how hard this is, I have a mother who was like yours and I suffered for years out of a misguided sense of loyalty. I showed her more respect than she deserved, and by doing so, I failed to respect myself. I'd get out of there before they start exerting their peculiar brand of influence over the kids.
2007-12-03 05:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honor your parents, don't let them abuse you.
Your 24, get a house, or appartment, I know thats hard as a single parent, but you can't stand up for yourself properly without that.
You must honor them, but you must also love yourself, and take care of yourself.
Good luck and God bless,
Jess - feel free to email
2007-12-03 06:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just try to wrap my head around this:
you're 24, you have 3 children and you live with your parents?
All I can say to that is: move out on your own - it's well due time to be independent.
2007-12-03 05:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by JD 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like maybe you are living with parents & not paying for rent?
Fork it over!
Sorry but that would be honoring them. You would have to pay rent anywhere else.
If you don't like what she says..........ask her to talk with you in a conversation about every little thing you don't like.
2007-12-03 05:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by LandOfMisty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to like them to honor that they gave you life, raised you somehow (obviously because you're here). If you're living with her, you follow the rules (it is HER house after all) or move on out and find peace elsewhere.
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2007-12-03 05:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by vinslave 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋