Casual sex Is this a BAD THING?

Question

i have never had casual sex in my life but a few of my friends hook up with people because they don't want to be in a relationship.Can't those feelings turn into somehing else though if there not careful?

Answer 1

Like what?. Love...not a bad thing......sexually transmitted diseases...very bad.

Answer 2

Physically, as long as you use protection and are in a safe environment, then casual sex is not a problem. However, society still judges girls who are 'easy' far more harshly than guys. Sad but true. So the real danger in casual sex is not the physical act but the fact that people may think badly of you for it. And guys who think you are an easy lay may well try to take advantage. Guys tell each other things just like girls do, so your reputation could get ruined REAL fast. Once that happens, it's hard to repair. Therefore if you DO have casual sex, try to choose your partners carefully, and do things in private (not raging drunk at your friend's pool party, for instance!) to keep gossip to a minimum.

Answer 3

In my opinion they ALWAYS turn into something else. This is one aspect of sex that is almost never talked about and you're very wise for thinking of this. People always seem to focus on the righness or wrongness of casual sex or on STD's, pregnancies and such. But even if ALL of those things weren't there, the emotional issue IS.
Sex IS special to humans. Other species of animals can have sex without emotional involvement but humans can't. We're just not wired up this way.
If you look closely at people who engage in promiscuous sex you can always see some kind of behavior to deal-with/avoid the feelings that follow sex, avoiding the partner for a long time after sex, drinking or doing drugs after sex, obsessing on the next partner, switching partners, getting away from the partner immediately following sex and so on.
There seems to be this myth about it that just because we decide before hand that it's not going to mean anything then it won't. As if I could decide being hit on the hand with a hammer is not going to hurt, and then do it and expect to feel no pain. Doesn't work very well.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with casual sex as long as both people are in it for the same thing. I have a few friends with benefits and with us it's just sex. Sometimes it can turn into something more for one or both if they're not careful but I've always been able to keep separate the physical part of sex from any emotional attachment.

Answer 5

A couple of times when I felt lonely or vulrenable I've done it and I felt cheap and dirty. I think sex is a higly emothional thing for a woman, I actually watched a show once and it showed that women's emotional centres get triggered in sex while men centres just feel satisfaction, so they don't feel bad after having sex because no emotions have been triggered, men and women are wired differently no doubt about it. Men are build to sow and women are built to nurture a family and build a family. Anyway if they feel fine with it its up to them but I think its just a women's way of looking for affection when really a hug would probably do, or close contact of some kind. Anyway sounds like you're a wise girl, I always felt happier on my own not selling myself short :)

Answer 6

Casual sex has defiantely lost its "charm" with all those lovely STD's floating around so if you do be very careful. Just remember if this is just what it is leave it a the door when you go so you dont gethurt.

Answer 7

There's one outstanding anecdote which applies to this question, and it's as true now as it ever has been:

Men play at love to get sex; women play at sex to get love.

Yes I know that's a huge generalization, but there's more than a grain of truth to it. Do men (sometimes) genuinely fall in love? Of course they do. Do women (sometimes) genuinely enjoy sex? Absolutely yes.

But with casual sex, for the woman there's much more going on in her emotions. It may be that sex makes her feel loved and wanted, perhaps because in previous relationships (or her childhood) she has been denied love and affection, and she only feels loved when she is having sex. Guys having casual sex are essentially only interested in the physical buzz and their self-esteem, plus perhaps bragging rights so they can boast to their buddies about who they had sex with.

If a girl is having a lot of casual sex, then she probably has issues that need to be addressed with counseling - as this behavior is the antithesis of everything a well-balanced woman stands for. If a guy is having casual sex a lot, he's probably anal and commitment-phobic (perhaps a misogynist as well) - and this behavior will ultimately leave him emotionally empty.

Answer 8

Casual Sex is not healthy as you never know if the other person has a sexually transmitted disease + it gets you a bad name and a reputation as being easy..

Answer 9

Casual sex can be amazing....it can also be totally crappy. Usually it'll end up being "just a hookup", so you have to be prepared for that. Basically if you want to screw somebody or they want to screw you, ask yourself if it's physical, if you like them, or if both of you don't know yet. Be careful....but I'm not saying don't do random hook-ups cuz it might end up being good. Just be safe. (Condoms, birth control, etc.)

Answer 10

yea theres always that chance that you will wind up with an emotional attachment with the person you are just having casual sex with, but its not a problem to just have sex. especially if you arent looking for a relationship. i mean we cant do EVERYTHING ourselves

Answer 11

It seems like now adays people dont know the meaning of sex. Those feeling can turn into something... sex complcates things when you dont anything more from the partner. DRAMA!!