Ok so my father passed away a year ago on Dec. 29. My mom and dad have been apart (they were never married) since I wa 5. And my brother and I get survivor's checks for a little less than $700/month. This is supposed to be used for things like clothes for us and savig for college. But ever since then, my mom quit her job and wont get a new one. Shes using our whole checks to pay her bills and get herself what she wants. Im 16 and have a checking and savings account, so I want to save mine for college. But she keeps taking it. I keep telling her and telling her you've got to get a job. And finally 3 times Ive nagged her enough to get a job. But when she does sh quits about a week later and says they arent treating her fairly or some other sorry excuse.
I mean I dont mind and want to help out with bills, but I also need to save money and use it. What should I do. I try to talk to her, but all she does is tell me how selfish I am and that its not her fault. I really need
2007-12-03 05:21:57 · 6 answers · asked by NiCoLe i love my Chi cena! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to solve this! its getting out of control. W also dont make enough to even support a house payment, so we are living with my grandparents. All she cares about is her BF, but thats another issue. I love my mom, but shes got to learn to grow up and get a job!
2007-12-03 05:23:37 · update #1
Any advice on what my brother and I should do?
2007-12-03 05:25:04 · update #2
oh and by the way we never gt child support and thats her fault she never asked for it. My dad wouldnt of had the money to pay it anyways because he stayed sick all the time.
2007-12-03 05:42:44 · update #3
Ok, now I'm mad. Especially since I know your dream is to go to college to be a Vet Tech.Your mom should be working to support you.The only person entitled to any of that money other than you two is your grandparents who you are living with.Your mother is the one who is being selfish and it is her fault.Could you have go to your grandparents instead of your mom? Maybe they would be more trust worthy and use it in your best interest NOT THEIRS.I would call the social security office or where ever you get the check from and ask them what you can do about it and tell them the situation.
Let me know what happens. email me!
Parents that have good kids don't appreciate the fact that they have goals in life. Some times unlike the parents.
2007-12-03 05:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Doolittle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is supposed to replace the child support she no longer gets. It is supposed to be used to pay for every thing you and your bother need, including clothes, food, utility's, and a place to live. If there is any left after that, it is supposed to go into an account for college or whatever until you are 18.
Tell your mother if she doesn't get a job, then you will call social security on her for miss using the money.
And if you have to call, have your grandparents made your payee, since you are living with them anyway, then they can handle your money and make sure it is used to support you and take care of the things you need.
If you are both getting 1400.00 then there should be a little left every month, but if it is only 700.00 for you both, then that isn't enough to support 2 teenage children. So there wouldn't be anything left.
2007-12-03 05:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your mom is doing is illegal. That money is rightfully yours. You can contact an attorney that specializes in estate planning to find out what you can do to get that money. It might be as simple as having the attorney review the situation and sending your mother a letter explaining the situation. Oftentimes a letter is enough to make someone stop illegal activities.
Sorry to hear this. I have a somewhat similar situation, my sister and I inherited a building from my dad but my mom has yet to give us either the building or the income from the building, and it's bee 4 1/2 years since his passing. ??? I'm okay without the income but my sister is a single parent of two small children and is working 3 jobs to make ends meet. I feel badly that my mother, who is well off, is keeping the income from this property that is legally ours. I'm unsure of what to do as well. You hate to hold firm over financial matters when it comes to family, because it causes some major fights.
Handle it gently but firmly, and good luck.
2007-12-03 05:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way you can have your checks direct deposited like into a college fund or somewhere where your mom can't touch? You are being so smart and mature for wanting to save for college and it's totally unacceptable what your mom is doing. Be strong and do not give in, your mom is the adult and should be the one taking care of you and your brother not the other way around. So take care of yourself and do what you need to do to protect yourself and your future from her. Definitely don't give her any more money! Force her to grow up. Best wishes to you...
2007-12-03 05:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by sol's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to beat her to the mailbox and intercept the check at least once.
When you get the check or at least the statement attached to the check, call the agency that sends it and have them send the check to your PO Box instead.
A PO Box is relatively inexpensive... maybe $15 a month at the post office... there are other "wrap & mail" places that offer boxes, too.
2007-12-03 17:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly she needs to support you its not even ok that you have to support her i would take all my money out of my savings and hide it back somewhere what about a safety deposit box its like 20-30 a year and only you can get into it then its not where she can possibly get to it and you no where it is if you need it
2007-12-03 05:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋