Hi, I recently started dating a guy, and we began to be sexually active about a week ago. He is a virgin and very old to be one (he's 27, I'm 22), but he said he is ready with me.
Anyway, my problem is I cannot get him to climax. I tried hand jobs, BJ's, and sex with a condom, and it works for awhile but he ultimatly just ends up going soft. I'm on the pill so we tried sex without a condom, which makes me a little nervous (fear of pregnancy even though I'm on the pill, I prefer 2 methods of B/C) but he still wasn't able to get off. I'm not sure why. He says he's just nervous and is just getting used to having sex since he's a virgin. Anyone have any insight as to what might be going on, anyone ever have a similar experience?
ps, only serious answers please. Yes, I'm positive he's not gay, yes he really was a virgin before he met me, etc, etc. I'm coming on here and asking because I'm too embarrased to ask elsewhere.
Thank you all for your help. :-)
2007-12-03 04:34:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is going to sound selfish for your part...
Tell him to concentrate on getting you off, and not to even consider his own pleasure.
Show him exactly what you want,, lots of foreplay, and maybe lots of oral, just him doing you...
He will be busy getting used to satisfying you,will get over his nervousness, because he won't think about it...
And you will get a better lover....
I know this works........
2007-12-03 04:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO he's in all probability telling you the actuality approximately being frightened. Why no longer attempt having him do the masterbating while you're recent (without assisting) and spot if that works. If it does, then enable him do it some extra cases while you're recent (yet nevertheless no longer assisting) so he can get used to the thought that that's okay to climax with somebody else there. you need to objective having him masterbate you, without anticipating intercourse, so he can improve into extra delicate which contain your sexuality. i'm thinking he has been private with the intercourse act so long it particularly is no longer effortless to beat the shyness of being with an considerable different.
2016-12-17 05:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, he is too focus on getting a you know or he is stress out, sometimes that is the main problem. Try to do the deed spontaneously like when you and him are kissing and making out or get some self help books. I don't think it is a medical issue, but if it continue ask him to go to the doctor. I hope this helps.
2007-12-03 04:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it worked before, so what are you doing that is different? There are a lot of factors that are or will make this happen. I wish I could email you some stuff but I don't have your addy so good luck.
2007-12-03 04:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is really nervous. Most guys wouldnt just admit that unless they really mean it. Try more foreplay without sex and once he is able to get up and stay up then go for it. good luck!
2007-12-03 04:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by hunny_bun19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋