Me and my boyfriend had our first fight about him not wanting to deal with my ex and his friends wanting to beat his *** so he wasnt sure if he wanted to be with me anymore. We have only been dating for a few weeks but i really like him and it hurt me pretty bad. Then he told me that he didnt mean that and he was in love with me. I already have told him i am not ready to tell him i love him so what can i do to prevent more fights about this?
2007-12-03 02:41:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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I would tell you to break up with him, but he would probably turn into a stalker.
2007-12-03 02:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by My Sharona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep over it. That is the best thing you can do. An interval of 6 to 7 hrs will really help both of you to think, rethink and take a decision. Experience tells me that by the time those six hours are over - both of you would be feeling pretty sheepish about what had happened.
The worst thing about such fights is that you say the most hurtful things to each other - wanting to hurt the most. It is a matter of reacting and counter reacting. Both of you are really going to feel miserable about it soon enough.
But if you don't love each other - then I strongly feel this is the right opportunity to wean yourself away.
2007-12-03 10:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You BF has a anger managment problem! Its not your fault so you cant do anything to prevent a fight breaking out between you. He sounds jealous that your ex is kind of in the picture!
Think if he did this after a few weeks then imagine what will happen in years to come?
2007-12-03 10:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you or your ex has fed information to your new beau about something said or done in order for him to be provoked. He sounds hot tempered but I don't know what was said to make him mad. Definitely keep your ex's activities out of your love life and don't talk about him, or what he does, or use to do. Put it in the past where it belongs. And if you DO decide to stay with this one and work on a relationship, please keep your eyes open for anger issues and jealously problems. He might need to grow up a little more before commiting to a sound relationship. Good Luck.
2007-12-03 10:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by njunprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are not in a good situation. Maybe you still haven't gotten over your ex bf. This guy is saying he has these deep feeling for you , which is nice. The thing is you need to ask your self are you ready to move an and get over your ex?? or do you still need time to figure it out?? Its very important to know if you are ready to start something with someone? Tell him how you feel about him. You sound like you are in pain. Like I said think it through. Our ex's are in our past..and sometimes they do come to our future to hunt us, but we need known what we want and who we want to be with. Put your ex behind you like if he is the last person in your life, and prove to him you found someone who treats you better.
2007-12-03 10:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to tell the ex, that you are done with the drama, and he and his friends should stop or you will press charges against them, unless of course you like the attention that you get from the fights. If he is truly your ex, then he shouldn't be in your life. Are you willing to have all your boyfriends run off because of this manipulation?
2007-12-03 10:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him theres gunna be rumors and lies but its just because your ex is jealous of him....guys dont take these kind of things very easily so just let him know you really care for him and want to be with him no matter what your ex and his friends are saying.
2007-12-03 10:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by C'Vale Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the ex, thats what I had to do. It kind of sucks when you think about it, but if having a friendship w/ him is more important than you current relationship, then maybe you don't need to be w/ your current boyfriend.
2007-12-03 10:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lil Bit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant feel responsible for his insecurities, however, you can help him out. Reassurance is a good way to show him you care about him without saying the L word. Let him know how you feel about him and if he can handle it, good. If not, then maybe he isnt ready to tote around your baggage.
2007-12-03 10:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by dayzed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your ex needs to stay out of your life and stop interferring with your realtionship, if he still is. Your boyfirend is probably jealous if you still talk to your ex. Stay away from your ex if you want to keep your BF happy....
2007-12-03 10:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Bonita16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your ex to give it up and leave you and him alone first, let him know that love will come but but dont manufactor it just because, lastly dont have sex with him if you havent already because we men thinks that means you love us WAIT. Oh yeah tell him to kick your ex @$$ for hating
2007-12-03 10:50:10 · answer #11 · answered by GatorBowler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋