he hasn't sat me down and told me that he's doing these drugs (oxy contin and acid) but he's done them in front of me and told me what they were. I tried talking to him about it but he got nasty with me and started snapping and saying hateful things so I dropped the subject. He has this condition were he's very skinny and his liver doesn't work very well so he gets colds a lot. I want to get him off it but I don't know what to do for him. I can't hide them because he hides them himself and I've yet to find them.
Help?
2007-12-03 02:27:31 · 10 answers · asked by s2 xo Dana 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sweety....Really, he has to hit his own rock bottom...the most that you can do is tell him how you feel. Even though he says the hateful nasty things...it's still getting through to him that you don't like what he's doing, else he wouldn't say them...I wouldn't say ingnore what he's doing...but I think you may need to find another way of getting his attention about it.
btw....I wouldn't try hiding his stuff....that's just an opener for more nastiness....
2007-12-03 02:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by tayeloquin2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding them is not a good idea. If he is dependent upon them, hiding them or destroying them will only make him angry, which could result in your getting hurt. Unfortunately, you cannot save someone who does not want to be saved. You can try talking to him - telling him that you refuse (yes, use this word) to be with someone who is on drugs, in any way. Tell him that if he cares about your relationship, he will stop doing the drugs that are destroying his body. If he can't stop on his own, get him into counseling.
Most likely, what will happen with confrontation are 2 things - he will realize he's going to lose you (not want to) and straighten up. Or, he will fly off the handle again and tell you to get lost. I know you probably don't want to lose him, since you are on here trying to help him, but at the same time...you are not that kind of person...do you really want to keep a relationship with someone like that? You can't change him or fix him. Look at him as he is (someone really messed up) - you don't need a person like that in your life... Good luck
2007-12-03 02:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are self-help groups for persons living with or in a relationship with an addict (your boyfriend seems to be an addict). These groups are free and they will give you the support to not only do what you can to help your boyfriend but also what you can do for yourself. Al-Anon and Codependents Anonymous are the best known of these groups. Check them out on the web or in the local phone directory. You do not have to suffer the disease of someone else. And discovering what all this means will help your boyfriend with his disease of addiction. Good luck!
2007-12-03 03:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by NA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses to address this issue the best thing you can do for u is to walk away from this situation. Don't let him take you down with him you have the rest of your life to live and you don't need a drug addict dragging you down.
The only person you can change is you. Do yourself a favor and pack up your bags and move on to someone who deserves you.
2007-12-03 02:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are potentially putting yourself in a dangerous situations. His snapping and sayings could turn to rage and deep hatred w/o him realizing what is going on and you could be in the way. You can love him from a distance and tell him to either get help or else. You can't really help someone unless they want to help themselves but you have to look at your safety and well being also.
2007-12-03 02:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by mell mell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why interior the call of a coconut tree be prego with a drug addict whilst your unborn newborn must be retarded beaacuse of his addition and rotten sperm? you have Wendy`s syndrom,, verify it out ! merely like Peter Pan`s syndrom, flow away the loser and get your self a actual guy, it`s elementary ..merely overlook approximately him by way of swimming, walks, communities and all,, write..HE does not LOVEYOU! Is it sparkling and why ought to you have ababy whilst he doesn`t supply a baloney?what are you and are you soooo desperate, merely because of the fact he has a
2016-10-18 23:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is tell him what you can and cannot handle if he doesn't comply you need to give him a big hug and kiss. wish him good luck in life and move on u can still be there for him as a friend and support him when he ask but.........that addiction is something he has to stop on his own. he has to lose before he can appreciates what he has with you. but don't waste your energy
2007-12-03 03:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by just4fun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get into rehab or it is over and stick to it. he is killing his self. I will guess he has hepatitis C if his liver is that bad.
2007-12-03 02:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot help someone who does not want help it has to be thier decsion and by not saying anything is to be co dependant attend some classes and see your options ,i am a physcologist and believe me u need help too try it please
2007-12-03 02:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. There is nothing you can do for him.
2007-12-03 03:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋