My son loves to play with my daughters toys,my family doesnt like it,what should I do
2007-12-03 02:23:13 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He has a sister and he is just mocking what she does. Guys are Dad's too you know so they can play with baby dolls also! This does not mean that he is feminine or homosexual, although he could be in the future. Who knows, but that is not a sign of homosexuality in children. Don't worry, it is completely natural and your family needs to chill out.
2007-12-03 02:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It's just fine. When my oldest son (now 6) was 2, we were in the store picking out a present for my niece.... my son picked up a barbie... we lived with my sister and her 4 kids, so he played with barbies all the time... well, this guy and his son came down the aisle, and his son had a G.I Joe... he saw my son with the barbie and said something along the lines of "I can't believe that you let your SON play with Barbies..." I smiled at him and said "I don't know about you, but when my son is undressing his toys, I like knowing that he's undressing a female doll." The guy took the toy from his son and huffed away, lmao. Now my son is 6 and into Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Hotwheels and video games and Spiderman, just like other boys his age.... but I'll never forget the look on that mans face.
Don't worry about what other people say, just let your son play... he's playing with your daughters toys because he is around your daughter and sees her playing with them. He's too young to know what's a boy toy and what's a girl toy.... he'll outgrow it in time, and your family shouldn't worry so much about it.
2007-12-03 02:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Franky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what your son is more comfortable with. Who cares if he's playing with a doll? It's a toy, for heaven's sake!
We are far too concerned about stereotypical behaviours for out children. If a boy wants to play house, what difference does that make? If a girl likes cars, so what? It doesn't mean anything. It won't 'make' him gay, and if he does turn out to be gay, how can anyone say 'oh, it's because you let him play with dolls!' No one can prove that.
I have a bit of a different perspective on gender (considering I'm transsexual), and I don't buy into all that 'blue is for boys, pink is for girls' crap. I know from first-hand experience that your gender is not dictated to you by your environment. Your environment can play a part in how 'masculine' or 'feminine' you are, but inherently, it's a combination of your genes, hormones, and brain development in utero that determines your gender. People don't realize that gender isn't always as clear-cut as 'if there's a penis, it's a boy; a vagina, it's a girl!' What about if a child has both? Or neither? What if you think your child one but turns out to be genetically the other (as in Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome)? What if your child displays a feminine gender, but is anatomically male, or vice versa?
Maybe your son will be a normal man when he grows up, with a propensity towards caring for children. Maybe he'll be a better father, and a better husband, because he won't have the tired, archaic mentality of 'carin' fer babies is wimmins' work!' Maybe he'll be gay. Maybe he'll be transsexual. Does it matter in the end? Your child is your child, and the choices for him are yours alone to make right now. Love him, no matter how 'different' he may be. Children want to be accepted and loved for who they are, just as adults do.
2007-12-03 02:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine ' when kids are little they love to play with all sorts of toys they like' and have fun with.It;s not till the parents are family members say it's bad as it's a girl toy' or boy's toy AND IT'S NATURAL...My son which is 10 used to play with his sisters dolls as do lots of boys..They need to grow up and let your boy be a child' and not worry what is appropriate for a 3 yr old ..Lots of luck wih your family; and your son is just fine.
2007-12-03 02:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your family he's your son, and you don't have a problem with it so he is going to continue playing with those toys. I'm a teacher, and used to have a class of 3-5 year olds. The boys would often bring in toy cars and trains from home, but as soon as we got the dolls buggies out they would always go for them. Little boys grow up to be dads. It is seen as perfectly natural for dads to be close to their babies and cuddle and play with them, so why can't little boys practise that with dolls? A doll will not make a child gay. How can a baby doll make anyone fancy someone of either sex? If anything, 'nurturing' games may make them a more nurturing person. My husband has 2 older sisters, and they used to force him to play 'My Little Pony' with them all the time. As he is now married he is obviously not gay, and is the nicest, kindest man I've ever met. I would not only allow my male child to play with so called 'girls' toys, I would happily go out and buy them for him myself. I personally would much rather he play with a doll than with a gun. Also, it makes me annoyed when toy shops have 'girls' and 'boys' sections, and the painting and creative things are in the 'girls' section. What, now a boy isn't allowed to like to draw and make things either?!! Yes, you can still go and buy them, but if you have a child with you and they're old enough to read 'girls' and 'boys' they're going to think there's something wrong with liking those toys, and that's pretty sad I think.
2007-12-03 04:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by abihigginson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At that age a toy is a toy for a child. They don't know the difference between a girls and boys toy. I wouldn't worry unless he is still playing with the baby doll when he is 5. If it bothers your family too much give the child a action figure. It may be that he just likes playing with things that look like people and he will most likely start playing with the action figure.
2007-12-03 02:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bubba 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not at all. My Mom and children's father had a fit when I bought my son a Dora doll back in 2005 (he was 3). He loved it! He is now 5 and is such a boy! He loves his trucks, cars, video games, and basketball. I also have a daughter (age 3) and my son plays with her toys and play kitchen. Children will grow up to be whatever they choose with the guidance that they received from their parents. Let him play with his sister's toys. I see no harm.
2007-12-03 02:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Magicalbert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is fine. Are you worried he will turn out gay? I don't think that a child's preference in toys in a huge deal. Maybe take him to get some new toys? Would they prefer that he play with toys guns? Thats pretty macho. Kinda scary too I think.
Worst case scenario, if your worried about your son becoming fruity from playing with dolls, then it has already happened. He is still your son. Keep loving him. Let the boy play with whatever he wants.
2007-12-03 02:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Toilet Finger! 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not, in the real world both men and women have children and babies. There is nothing wrong with him playing with a baby doll. Sometimes little boys just like the bright colors of girls toys too.
2007-12-03 02:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your son is happy that's all that matters. Your family are more concerned about what the neighbours might think than your son's well being. The worst that could happen is that he might get teased and bullied at school and to be honest that will probably happen regardless of what toys he plays with.
2007-12-03 02:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by xenobyte72 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋