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It was my first time in the gym and there were two guys inside the sauna and began talking to me. Of course, they have male voices and big built so I never expected they were gays not until they told me. Now, they asked me if I want to have it with them and I am a straight guy. I want to reply in a polite way at such they wont feel bad though. Now, they are texting me again and wanted to see me but I want to get rid of them, HELP!!??? please... URGENT

2007-12-03 02:18:40 · 18 answers · asked by entrepreneur_boy 2 in Society & Culture Etiquette

And yes, they want to follow me because they think im attractive but to Hell with it! Im now shutting down my phone because they just wont stop calling!

2007-12-03 02:20:06 · update #1

Nope, never showed interest and I told them Im straight and I have no interest on them or whatsoever. Ok, thanks for the advise guys. It just so happened that the first we met, they look straight and hoping for better connections, I gave them my number. It was the last part when both of them revealed but it is very unnoticiable.... really a bad day.

2007-12-03 02:28:28 · update #2

18 answers

Just tell them you are not gay and not interested in their offer, but if they would like to be friends you are fine with that.

I think it is far ruder for a complete stranger to assume another's values and approach them about sex, so you just have to be forthright with them.

2007-12-03 02:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Spiffs C.O. 4 · 5 0

Having been hit on a few times by gay guys over the years I find that a simple "sorry but I'm not gay" works very well, most gay guys will leave you alone as soon as they know you're straight.

2007-12-03 02:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

If you have told them you are not gay, and they did not care and keep texting and calling, you're going to have to be kind of rude with them. Tell them that you are not gay and what they are doing is sexual harassment and you won't stand for it. If they do not stop, tell them you are going to get the police involved.

2007-12-03 02:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i don't think you have to answer in an "ethical" way..just tell them NO and make it clear to them that you are not interested......then they should leave you alone...if they don't then that's just harrassment....and you take the necessary steps from there...but wait did you show interest in the first place? did you tell them that you were staright and that it wasn't your thing? well doesn't matter but i think you should just be frank about this and say what you feel.....be bold/harsh whatever gets the message across to them

2007-12-03 02:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

"No, I'm straight, not interested, gave you my cell # before you made your intentions clear, stop texting me."

If you get one more call, block their number with the cell company, report the harassment to the gym, and [since I know nothing more about cell communications I'm assuming these procedures apply] register a complaint against their number.

Two things to remember: Voice and build is no indication of sexual orientation, including you, including me, including everybody.

And just as there are sexually obnoxious straights, there are sexually obnoxious gays.

2007-12-03 02:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dinah 7 · 0 1

Send them a polite card with the following:

You are both fit,
And I'm a hottie,
But I don't like it
Up my bottie!

Thanks for the invite, enjoy the lifestyle choice

(I should work for Hallmark!)

2007-12-03 02:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

HONESTLY on some level I think you want to go through with it but are afraid to try. Not sure what your fears are but, you must be interested on some level. Why else would you give two gay men your cell phone number.

2007-12-03 02:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by HAND F 4 · 0 1

I am wondering how "ethical" and "orgy" got in the same sentence?? Telling people "no" to disgusting propositions, is not unethical. Why feel insecure about that?

2007-12-03 02:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by cgirl97 4 · 0 0

Tell them for the last time you are not gay and not interested in being with them and to stop harassing you.

2007-12-03 02:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0 1

Just say no flat out and that you don't want to participate in that with them. Unless they are complete crazy's they should stop calling you once you are upfront with them.

2007-12-03 02:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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