i am a 13 year old girl and i'm in 8th grade. i am really ugly and kind of fat. i hate the way i look. its hard for me to look people in the eye in public. the only time i feel comfortable is at home. i skip school alot because i think i'm too ugly to go to school. ive had depressed and suicidal thoughts. i cant talk to my sisters because they are really pretty and they would just call me a freak. what do i do?
2007-12-03 01:06:08 · 10 answers · asked by beachbellex3 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm sure you're much more attractive than you think you are!!!! We are always comparing ourselves to other people and finding ourselves lacking, I did this until I realised that I have many great friends, and realised that they like me for me.
I think that you probably just look different to your sisters, and this needn't mean that you are any less pretty than they are. You're just different, that's all! Ugly is such a strong word .... and if you have attractive sisters, you probably look fine too.
As for the kind of fat thing, well, love, you're 13. You will grow out of this, and get a figure, so don't worry about this. You can help yourself feel better by eating sensibly, drinking lots of water and exercising regularly, and the side effects of this are that your body will actually start looking better, and your skin and hair.
2007-12-03 01:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're depressed and have suicidal thoughts, you really need to see some professionals.
You're only 13; a lot will change in the coming years.
School is not a place to go and be pretty. It's a place to learn - go learn all you can, and later on in life, you will RULE!
There's a joke: Remember that kid in school you used to call a geek? What do you call him now? "BOSS."
When I was a kid, I felt the same way. I had no reason to, because I'm an attractive guy - but it was all inside my head, and that was just as bad... so being "pretty" or "handsome" or "talented" or whatever is all relative. I was all those things, but I was miserable and lonely inside, and wanted to off myself plenty of times.
It took me almost 30 years to figure my head out. Better late than never, because I feel fabulous now. But I hope that you don't have to spend that much time being unhappy...
I WISH I could go back to that age - the first thing I would do is make sure I did GREAT at all my classes- I'm a very intelligent man, but in school I was so miserable that I didn't apply myself very much.
I realize now that all the drama about wanting to look good and be popular was a waste of time.
Anyhow, you probably aren't "ugly." We are our own worst critics.
Love, Jack :-)
2007-12-03 01:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are at a tough age in life. When I was younger I didn't feel very good about myself either. My best friend once told me to look at myself in the mirror everyday and tell myself that I was beautiful. Look the world in the eye... walk with you head held high. If act or believe that you have confidence others will see you that way also. Remember that everyone has an opinion the same way you do. You don't think everyone you see is pretty or you don't like certain things that others like and that's ok. Don't let ones opinion get you down. Are you a good person on the inside? Are you nice, helpful and a good hearted person? You will realize when you are older that these qualities are what really make a person beautiful!!!! Do you have any goals such as getting good grades, exercising, starting a hobby, anything learning something new or giving yourself something to work towards can also help. Life is precious and taking your life won't solve anything. You are here for a reason. Remember:
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!!
2007-12-03 01:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, get off of the "I'm fat and ugly" thought - your confidence in yourself will make others see you differently...if you have to do things to make yourself feel better about yourself. Start working out. Exercise makes you feel better about yourself, as well as changes your body so you look better! You will become stronger and more confident. Also, read magazines that can tell you about new beauty products, or talk to your sisters about what they use. Buy (or have a parent buy) yourself something special (a special bath soap, or moisturizer, etc) that makes you feel good about yourself when you use it.
Just focus on yourself and the things that make you feel better - forget anyone else's opinion and get healthy...your confidence in yourself is the hottest thing you can have as a woman...I promise!
2007-12-03 01:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, with being fat you can do something. Talk to your parents, get a nutritionist and start a healthy diet.
Also, you're just 13 - maybe you'll get over these problems, you're still growing up...
It's kind of normal to have issues with your appearance. Maybe you should also talk to your parents or to a school councillor about this...
2007-12-03 01:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by Analyst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt that you are ugly. and if you believe that you are ugly...what do you think isnt good enough? just your weight? if thats the case, work out and diet. it can be fun. you are not too ugly to go to school! people your age are mean and insecure, they only say things because they feel as if they arent good enough. please go talk to your docotor about it. He will give you a diet plan and maybe put you on some anti-depressents so you can be happy =]
2007-12-03 01:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sisters and parents, tell them how you are feeling, You are only 13, your body shape wil change again. Dont get nasty thoughts about yourself, your OK. Think positive.Dont worry if they are prettier, just tell them you are smarter.
2007-12-03 01:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by gaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what should u do??
ok look girl mayb your an ugly and kind of fat but if u look into positive thought mayb u got sumthin' special that others doesn't have...
think bout it???
keep up on your school n make way for your future...and please don't ever think on suicide ok....
2007-12-03 01:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by aiman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should not care what u look like cuz ur still growing.stop saying i'm fat and ugly,start saying i'm beautiful
2007-12-03 01:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by demondeath54 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all why you think you are ugly? best,ask,when you start thinking so?or maybe who sied you ar ugly for the first time?
I think you critisize yourself badly!
you should change your way of thinking,you have to modify your think,you find very beautiful things in yourself,GOD made all of us pretty,we should find them in ourself.
2007-12-03 01:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by NoNosh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋