Hubby annoyed?

Question

I looked after 2 of my sisters kids one day at the weekend with my daughter (20 months) her 2 3yrs and 5 months it was fine no problems.When she collected them she never said thanks and my hubby was mad cause i was feeling ill (migrain and feeling sick when she had gone i was off to bed feeling very ill) i'm 13 weeks pregnant and we have lost two pregnancy this year so hubby worries about me.She is moving this week and will want me to have tham again my hubby said i should say no cause people always put on me but she needs some help so her and her hubby can move what can i do? thanks

Answer 1

You need to start thinking about yourself more, and your little 'bump', there are baby sitting services and friends as well as you.

Answer 2

Hubby is trying to protect you that's all it is understandable as you have been through so much losing your babies, i am sure you sister would understand if you told her you didn't feel well enough to look after the kids, you have to think of yourself now just until you have had the baby and rest good luck and look after yourself have some me time!

Answer 3

There is nothing worse than being taken for granted , I think on this occasion your husband is right you have enough to deal with at the moment you have a toddler and being pregnant , On the other hand they are moving away and will have to sort out their baby sitter there if you are sure this would be the last time they will ask then for quietness I would go along with it ,

Answer 4

Your hubby is right on this. I think you should explain this to your sister - your baby needs you to be well, healthy and strong.... its more important than babysitting for others.
Maybe your sister should get a baby sitter for the day....

I hope all goes well with your pregnancy and im so sorry for your 2 loses

Good luck and take care fo yourself

xxxxx

Answer 5

Good God! Your sister has had two kids in the past three years and you have been pregnant four times in the past 20 months! I am glad your both married, but still this habit of yours is not healthy, hence the headache. By all means, take it easy on yourself.
But if nobody else is available to babysit you must do it.
If you and sister AND the two men sit down and plan it right, it should only be an hour or two by yourself with all three kids. Sister should have her home packed and ready for men to load and go, deliver and un-load. Then the men can take the children to McDonald's or Chuckycheese for the afternoon while you, sis and the 5 month old clean, un-pack and set up her new home. It could be a stress free fun time. Have fun with sister.
I am not going to lecture you on the merits of birth control but .... OK, I won't. Have fun.

Answer 6

I agree with your husband, you need to look after yourself right now.

Your sister should be aware that you aren't well either, have you told her you haven't been feeling the best? If not, you should, and let her make other arrangements for her kids. She is your sister, so she shouldn't mind at all.

Answer 7

well i know your pregnant but pregnncy isnt a reason tell him, itsfine to do normal things whilst pregnant the other babies were not meant to be, he is right that you shouldnt over exhert yourself tho, i too looked after my nephew when perhaps i was a little off weather and felt put on but my sister has returned tat favour and has helped me enourmously with my kids when ive needed a sitter and help with moving and when i had my son 9 weeks ago it was her who looked afte my kids whilst she too was 6 weeks off expecting a baby therself.
Maybe your asking the wrong question, sisters tend to relyon each other, what yu should be doing is calling back on her wen you are poorly to help you look after your child. its made mine and my sisters reltionship so much better and we onli leave our children with each other but it is oth ways if she wouldnt help you out then dont help her, but if she will just remember there is going to be a time when you too might need her. If your feeling a little unwell you should say so and get her to make other arrangements tho. good luck

Answer 8

With your sister, it can be hard to say no. Hubby could help you couldn't he? If you aren't feeling well though, tell your sister you can't. She should understand.

Answer 9

is she isnt using you for a babysitter then i see no problem!! your kid can play with them and take a little stress off of you!
if she is using you then just appologise and say you cant..
your hubby is probably just worried, im sorry you lost your babys and i wish you all the best with this one!

Answer 10

i can understand you wanting to help but i can also understand where your hubby is coming from, cant your sister get someone else to help her out? you really should be taking care of yourself in the early stages especially, im sure she would understand! relax! and good luck =)

Answer 11

We had a same prob with a sister in law who kept dumping her kids on us.

We refused eventually. You won't win any friends for do so though but it's your life you gotta do what's right for you.