it has been ongoing for a couple of years, she is diagnosed with depression and personality disorder. Thought she was going reasonably well, then all of a sudden, tries again. She is on medication. Have just moved and changed doctors but still on same meds. I have trouble trying to work it out. Could be the interstate move, but it was all discussed and planned previously. I just know its scary and I don't know what to do.
2007-12-02 23:24:26 · 6 answers · asked by gaz 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She has spent the last week in hospital, maybe home tomorrow, but how will she be/, I have organised short days for work to take and pick up son from school, but cant be with her 24/7.
2007-12-02 23:49:26 · update #1
She has spent the last week in hospital, maybe home tomorrow, but how will she be?, I have organised short days from work to take and pick up son from school, but cant be with her 24/7.
2007-12-02 23:50:35 · update #2
Gaz... My heart goes out to you. I have Clinical Depression with Anxiety Disorder. My youngest son is Bipolar and I understand what you must be going through. Both because I am a person with a Chronic Disorder and also because I had to be the caregiver for my son. I do not know where you live but if the Town is of any size at all you should have a Mental Health Center. Find the phone number and call them. They can be of a great service and help you either directly or channel you to other agencies. There is a lot of help for you as the "caregiver" and if needed help for your wife as well. If she is in such a precarious state of mind then she needs not just medication but "counseling" as well. The one thing you need to keep in mind is that you CANNOT watch her 24/7. You have a job to keep so that you can provide for your family. If she is "suicidal" and you are genuinely concerned that she might harm herself then there is the possibility that she needs to get "in house" treatment. That means signing her into a facility that CAN monitor her 24/7 and make sure she takes her meds and they can give her the structured psychological help she needs. It's a difficult choice to make but it may be in her best interest. Whatever happens I hope you will find a resolution that will be of help to all concerned. God Bless...
2007-12-03 08:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by Terry R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have personality disorder and major depression. Many people with BPD have addiction problems also but since you did not mention that, i will just tell you part of what happened to me and how I've managed to get better.
Many people don't understand the difference in personality disorder and mental disorder but in the case of BPD two places in the brain actually change, part of the frontal lobe and the amygdalla. Without getting into the technical parts of this I will just suggest you look up what these things are for in the brain. whatever major trauma she has been thru can be dealt with at the same time she consciously decides she wants to get better. i will suggest a book called "The Angry Heart" for her and "Stop Walking On Eggshells" for you.
I did most of my research into my illness on the internet because not one person in the town I live in knew how to treat it.
First thing I learned was prozac is the best med for a BPD person to be on and if the prozac burn out has occurred then a 25mg dose of pamelor will boost the prozac up to working again. That and Lamictal as a mood stabilizer works well without all the terrible side effects such as weight gain, headaches, tiredness etc..
I have been on disability for 2 years and have tried therapy but the internet has been the best source of information for me. sites like Web MD. I started going to a 12 step group as I do have a substance abuse proplem and that has filled a void spiritually i didn't know would make such a difference but it has been a true lifesaver as i have died 1 time and have made many attempts at ending my life. Spirituality is a wonderful gift life has given me and friends that don't judge me for being "different".
One more very important detail is the least amount of stress the better. I'm referring to when she begins recovery which I hope you noticed the books I suggested. Stress is the first thing a person with BPD doesn't need while they are learning coping skills. Someone with BPD does not have any coping skills at all until they begin to learn on their own. "The Angry Heart" is a good book and even has the docs home phone number in it for those really bad days. Give it a try. Please, I was just glad to find out why my life had been such a mess for 43 years when i was finally diagnosed.
2007-12-03 00:26:26 · answer #2 · answered by greenpiper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your best bet would be to find a support group for you and your family to attend for survivors of suicide...talk to other people in the same situation and find out how they deal with the day-to-day stuff.
The move very well could have triggered something in her that made her want to attempt again. She could feel out of control right now and that could have made her feel like (weird as this sounds), the only control she had was over ending her life or hurting herself...
The best advise I can give is get into a support group - these people know how to cope and how to advise you on help...they have these groups online as well as in person...
Good luck
2007-12-03 00:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. I know it's really hard for anyone in relationships. I have psyc problems but we are just the same as 'normal' people. We all need support/love. It sounds like you have been doing a great job at being a awesome husband and to you, I give you props. At least you aren't like so many people nowadays, when the toughs get going, they get going! Hope everything is ok and works out for you and your wife! Prayers are with you. :)
2007-12-02 23:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs constant medical treatment. You have to know that this is not your fault and there is nothing you can do except let her know you love her and are there for her. I have been through this and had to see my doctor once a week until my mediacation kicked in. She sounds like she should be hospitalized. Good luck.
2007-12-02 23:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to throw psycho-babble at you, but first and foremost, make sure you know the numbers for your local suicide help line, and post them where she can see them. Second of all, you may wish to seek some counselling for yourself or at least call the local hotline and they shoud be glad to provide you with some coping tips. I am dealing with several people close to me who are battling depression and it is very taxing on the caregiver.
2007-12-02 23:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋