this is a FACT: i seriously only attract the kind of guys that play vid games all day long and they look really smart, but actually aren't. I can get the guys i don't want, but i can never get the guy i actually am aiming for! gr! anyone know why? i think i'm an overall nice person, you know, the kind that's friendly to everyone. Some say i'm flirty, but if i am, i don't even notice it and i'm the same with every guy, unless i really like a guy, then maybe i get a little but more giddy..?
2007-12-02 20:32:13 · 18 answers · asked by ♥ ♥ ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, but "getting" losers, it doesn't mean i'm actually dating them. they just ask me out but i decline.
2007-12-02 20:43:02 · update #1
Chances are you like loosers... You may want to look at why you find loosers so attractive.
2007-12-02 20:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by HotDockett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't mention which guys you actually do want. And when you say that you only attract those who you don't want, well if you don't want them, how do you get to the point of actually being with them? Get to know a person well before you get involved. And even more importantly, get to know yourself.
It seems that you don't know who you are, (having "abercrombie" as your user name is a dead give away that you don't have a well developed sense of self identity). So, since you don't really know who you are, you can't very well know who you want. Get to know yourself deeply. Once you know who you are and why you are the way you are (or choose to be), the right people will come your way.
Hints for knowing yourself: 1. Don't believe everything mass media tells you is good or bad. 2. Don't try to look, sound or act like the models for clothing companies such as Abercrombie and such. 3. Let nature ( and I do mean trees, plants, animals, etc.) be your guide for what is right and wrong; if you act according to nature, you'll attract the right people. (Remember that you, I and everyone and everything are part of nature. Follow nature and you'll find happiness and even the right guy for you.)
2007-12-02 20:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting a particular kind of guy why do you settle for another kind?
I think it's because you like the attention. It doesn't matter what guy it's from as long as you get it. Then when either you or your loser b/f gets bored and the attention slows down. You dump him and move on. Always wanting that guy you really like but settling for the one thats conveniant at the time.
2007-12-02 20:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Colin M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
psh , are you one of those girls who are too stuck up to play a round of halo with me and the boys on the xbox? sorry you look cute from your avatar but u seem like u aint much fun.
some advice I can give you is , lighten up a bit , and maybe you should start being the aggressor , allot of women still dont ask men out. but this is what my older bro told me , if you sit back and wait to be asked out , you get the girls that want you , if you go out and ask you will eventually get the girls that you want.
2007-12-02 21:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear girl, please listen to my advice, I am old enough to be your grand father, maybe even your grand-grand-father! :-)
The reason fairy tales are full of stories about princesses meeting a charming prince is that, at your age, we all feel we fail to meet our 'prince' or 'princess.'
There is nothing wrong with you, it is in our evolutionist behaviour to be very choosy prior to mating. Observe all the things other animals are doing before they become couples. It is a simple way of nature.
Don't give up and one day your prince will come too. Concentrate on your studies, your future and your prince will come probably at the least expected moment.
Have a long and prosperous life!
2007-12-02 20:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Michel Verheughe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's you personally it might just be your judgement of men that needs improving?
in stead of always choosing guys who have the same qualaties your other bf had try expending your horizions
i did once and had the best month of my life(not THE best but high up there) then she moved back to canada =[
but that was a year ago and i'm over it...
P.s i like gaming but i don't do it allday long and i'm doing advance higher biology ;)
lol!
2007-12-02 20:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Roxas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friendly with everyone, or friendly to the ones you want something from? dating is about finding out who you are. and just make sure that your not just hanging around a certain group of people. expand your social circle and your dating pool gets bigger.
2007-12-02 20:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by AJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a lioness on the hunt? Slow down, do not pursue them, let them strike up the nerve and come to you, then he will put on his best ways. It's not a competition, it's your life.
Best wishes.
2007-12-02 20:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably try too hard for the guys you want, which may turn them off. Thus, you only get the guys you don't pursue.
2007-12-02 20:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
look i got exactly the same problem only with girls... u just got to try and let go of hopes... go on with ur life and usually he(or she in my case) will come to u. i am trying not to sound like a total retard, but it does help.
2007-12-02 20:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by merlin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋