Do they owe you anything? i wouldn't do this to my ex but he is best friends with my best friend. he knows it would devastate me but I don't think he owes it to me not to do anything, but I'm not sure, what do you think?
2007-12-02 19:19:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is your ex. They are entitled to seek their own happiness, like you are also entitled.
2007-12-02 19:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by CX 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hurtful and messy just scratches the surface of this situation.
But you have to look at relationships and realize that some are more important than others. Something between a guy and a girl means more than friendships that are not so intense.
I wouldn't criticize your ex or your best friend for being together because what they could have with each other might be more important than what either has with you.
However, that doesn't eliminate the discomfort with you. What to do? I'd refrain from criticism. If your friend is a good friend, let her have some time without you. If their relationship develops into something good, deal with that later. If it fizzles soon, you can accept that, too.
Lastly, put yourself in her place- what if her ex struck a spark in you? Would you want to douse that because your friend is more important? Tough decision.
Be patient, be calm and be above reprisals.
2007-12-02 19:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you really love someone, including your friends, you want the best for them and want them to be happy. Now two people you love are thinking about getting together because they think it would make them happy. I think if it would devastate you, then you aren't really all the way over him. There's no need to tell either of them that, but I think I'd try to find some new friends and give myself some time and distance from both of them.
2007-12-02 19:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie that is breaking the cardinal rule in regardless of weather the two of you are together or not its wrong wrong wrong very indecent of the two of them,Its all about respect for you and themselves. She is not your friend i repeat she is not your friend and i would tell her in advance if she decides to get with your left overs then stay away from you we are not talking about shoes and clothes here that is all good friend share.And its good you got away from a person like him and why do you need enemies when you have her. It has nothing to do with you wanting him back or anything it is just the principal.
2007-12-02 19:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
EEEEEEEEEEEEwwwwwwwwwww!
That is wrong!
Look if you were my best friend, I would never think twice about pulling that stunt on you. That's nasty and messed up like nothing else! Sorry I'm not like that, and it makes me so mad when girls treat each other that way and do that kind of stuff. Whether he's your ex or not...it's still just morally wrong and uncalled for, it's that UN-WRITTEN girl rule! You just do NOT date or ANYTHING with your friends ex...even if you two aren't friends anymore, it's still wrong.
ugh...I'm sorry.
*If I was you, I would just drop the both of them like yesterday's garbage and go wash my hands and continue on with my life.*
....do you want me to beat her up?! haha :)
2007-12-02 19:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs do no longer make a maximum appropriate. Sleep with them in case you choose yet they are only going to flow around calling you a sluuut afterwards and that they are going to be maximum appropriate in calling you that. Get a sparkling social circle, all of them sound like gamers.
2016-11-13 08:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by zeh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people probbaly wouldn't do it, but once you're broken up, then it's really none of your business. They know each other as well and can choose if they want to do it. Might be hurtful though and sounds like a messy situation.
2007-12-02 19:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it, but had friends doing it and I think there's nothing wrong with it, though people won't do it if they *really* care about you.
I find it uncomfortable and weird, but many people do it and they don't owe you anything.
2007-12-02 19:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would not do it, i don't do it.........i left my boyfriend and his uncle thought we would make a good pair..........he found out differently....i don't do it within family members.
I had a chance to date my ex boyfriends buddy but did not..........i was crazy about him too!....he was sooooooooooo nice.
2007-12-02 19:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by ttwobearsplusone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋